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 Undone1 (original poster member #37683) posted at 3:32 AM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

I am alone this evening and was flipping thru channels. I guess it escaped me that there was a new TV show about infidelity.

I watched it briefly, before I triggered (as you can guess would happen), and changed the channel. This kind of show makes me very sad! How can we make light of such a serious and painful subject!

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Married 10+ years to my high school sweetheart
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Me 55
WH 55
Blended Family: 25, 21, and 20
Married 10 years
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peridot ( member #18334) posted at 7:39 AM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

I won't watch that trash just on principle and morals.

I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.

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FeelsSoRight ( member #28377) posted at 11:56 AM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

Alyssa Milano (one of stars of show) was on one of the talk shows the other day (don't remember which one) and she said she had to really think about doing this show because she doesn't approve of infidelity. She said the reason she agreed to do it was because it shows how it can really mess up people's lives. Now, that being said, I have not watched the show so I can't say whether it is true or not. Just relaying what she said.

Me - W - 48
Him - H - 47
Together since we were 14/15
Married 27 yrs in August (renewed our vows in 2011-H's idea!)
DD-23, DS-15
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ninebark ( member #24534) posted at 12:00 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

I saw it advertised and couldn't watch it just from the quick bit I saw. I have no idea what it is about, heck it may even show cheating as a bad thing, but I just can't bring myself to turn it on.

BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

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Itstoohard ( member #37629) posted at 1:54 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

My brainless H asked if I wanted to watch it.........Huh? Can we say he just does not get it!,

BS 72fWH 72PA 30 yrs agoStarted as EA for 2 yrs then ONS CORRECTION Started as an EA for 8 yearsTrustismyissue

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itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 1:57 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

I'm glad Alyssa Milano said that. I really like her as an actress, but I can't watch this show. Even if it is to see them portray how infidelity destroys lives.

I just can't.

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nofool4u ( member #38509) posted at 3:17 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

This kind of show makes me very sad! How can we make light of such a serious and painful subject!

Thats because those that produce the shows could care less about the pain this causes and proabably think its funny because they are F'ing around on their spouses too.

Me - fBS

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keeponkeepingon ( member #32935) posted at 4:12 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

I tried to watch a few minutes of it last night. I am fighting triggers hard now. I am on a war against triggers for me now. I am facing them head on and kicking their asses. Sometimes I do not succeed though.

Anyway, I did not watch all the show just about 15 minutes. I did not have a back story so I am just guessing some of the lead up to the scene that pissed me off. It seems that Alyssa's character had an affair in her past and is facing a slippery slope now that she is "fighting". I think her character had an affair with her friend's hubby. Alyssa's hubby does not know about her A. The betrayed friend found a box of her deceased husband that revealed his A with her friend. This friend ends up at Alyssa's house and Alyssa apologizes for the A and the friend forgave her so easily and said it was the husband's fault not hers. The hugged it out and said "Never again."

What a stupid F'ing show.

"I know you and you know me and I know you can see. So help me get my way back to you"

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itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 4:25 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

They HUGGED IT OUT???

Wtf?

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keeponkeepingon ( member #32935) posted at 4:26 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

They HUGGED IT OUT???

Wtf?

Exactly! Clearly this show is not written by people that have been betrayed. The BW should have knocked her teeth in. But I am against violence......

"I know you and you know me and I know you can see. So help me get my way back to you"

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brokenfinger ( new member #39586) posted at 4:29 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

My daughter wanted to watch that show on TLC with that nanny chick fixing broken families, I told her no.I can't barely handle watching the previews.

I did see about 3 minutes of that mistresses show, same here, turned that crap off. Infidelity does not feel or look like that

There is no stronger message, then dirt in your face.

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Justmiserable ( new member #39388) posted at 4:34 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

I canceled my cable and only watch things from Netflix or on-line. I try to safeguard myself against triggers and most of tv is nonsense trash anyway. I still saw a prevue of that stupid show and it turned my stomach. At the time of my husband's affair, I sarcastically joked about him having a girlfriend and he'd laugh and say, "you mean my mistress". He actually joked about that on several occasions and now the very word makes me

me-BS,FWS madhatter (36)
him-BS, FWS (39)
2 children 17 and 13
Married 13 years
Ow-(36)Stranger that he met on POF
D-day 10/03/2012
status: in recovery, NC with OW since shortly after DDay

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 4:46 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

Boycotting the whole network until it is pulled.

What a messed up world we live in.

I certainly hope the people that are participating in this show, the acting, the producing, the whatever have the experience of Infidelity under their belt, so they can at least make it somewhat real. However it sounds like they don't have a clue.

Blech.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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lilflower1000 ( member #36634) posted at 4:50 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

I watched a piece of the first episode. It seemed like they made the BS out to be a complete jerk, but I did not watch enough to have opinion one way or the other. I taped it, but I still have not taken the time to watch a complete episode.

I have loved Alyssa Milano since I was a child. I hate that she would stoop to this type of trash.

lilflower1000
Me: 51 BS
Married 19 years
Dday1: 8/1/2012 ( followed by multiple Ddays)
D-day2( AP#2):Easter-April 12 , 2020
4kids(18,16, 13, 8) + 2 grown Step kids I love like my own

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:50 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

I consider myself pretty brave WRT media. My W wouldn't watch this show for $1M, but she's out when it comes on, so I planned on watching the 1st episode. Turned it off after a couple of minutes - whether it was done well or poorly, I just felt too vulnerable.

Doesn't Disney own ABC? My W, along with thousands of other kids, is still traumatized by memories of Bambi (1957-58 release), so what would anyone expect?

(Obviously, I'm an outlier WRT Disney....)

[This message edited by sisoon at 1:53 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)]

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tuscandreamer ( member #17406) posted at 4:21 AM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013

I have actually watched all of the episodes so far. I don't think that they are glamourizing infidelity. They give some pretty accurate portrayals of just how much it can hurt people. That being said, I still triggered while watching it.

BS 52
WH 49
Dday #1 6/20/07, Dday #2 (different OW) 5/16/09
3 DDs (19, 14, 12)
Reconciling???

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aesir ( member #17210) posted at 5:27 AM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013

This friend ends up at Alyssa's house and Alyssa apologizes for the A and the friend forgave her so easily and said it was the husband's fault not hers. The hugged it out and said "Never again."

My guess is she was more believable in Charmed.

Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

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WoundedOpus ( member #39521) posted at 11:32 AM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013

Milano's character actually slept with her coworker, not her friends deceased husband...not that it makes it ok.

Haven't watched the 3rd episode, but so far it's not glamorizing cheating, dramatizing it yes, but so far it's portraying it as twisted and hurtful

Me: BW 37
Him: WH 38
(DDay: 2/2008)
13 years, 5 kids...Seven years of Limbo

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Tired05 ( member #39609) posted at 1:26 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

Seen the previews but haven't watched it and never plan on it. I can hardly watch any movie that has infidelity in it anymore. Even if I used to love it pre-dday.

Another show I can't watch and trigger by simply watching the promos? Pregnant and dating. Because OW is pregnant and found herself a new guy to help her get over and move on from the mess she took part in making. I am jealous of her in the aspect of how easy it is for her to move on, when she finally decided to. I was pregnant when everything came to light...so I'm sure that doesn't help either.

Together 6 yrs. M 4 yrs. DD born 3/1/2013.
Me: BS -- Him: 1 EA/PA (6mos), PA (MW), and 6 ONS...Been at it for almost 5 yrs. *Still slave to TT* 1st DDay- 11/24/2012,
.....OC due in August.....

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brokensunflower ( member #38674) posted at 1:33 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

why do they think its ok to make shows about what ppl go thru tell me this show is just a joke & not real

me 34
him 34
7 wonderful kids 14 yrs 10 yrs 7 yrs 6 yrs and 4 yrs 2yr ..and new baby
married 15years together for 12

my give a damn is busted

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