But, without his asshole-ed-ness I don't think I'd be as close to my boys as I am. I wouldn't have went back to college. I'd still be in screaming matches over fruit snacks with him, I would probably be insanely depressed, or just insane, I would never have met Aussie and been able to have an amazing relationship with him, I wouldn't have done all the traveling I have, and I don't think I would have been motivated to make the positive changes in myself that I have, especially over the last couple years.
So, yes, I often think "Thank you for fucking up SO badly, that I knew there was no way to salvage that mess and I could leave with no guilt."
It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end
Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.
he would read it and think "see, I am a good person, she totally owes me now
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62 Him: WXH-62 D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI) S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
I'll thank all the amazing people in my life and be forever grateful for where I am now,I'll be thankful that I have this second chance at life. But I'll never thank him for the agony he put me through.
I never will, because he would read it and think "see, I am a good person, she totally owes me now."
But like Weatherly, I will never say anything because that would break NC and let him know he can still get to me. It's best to just have those thought in my head and maintain NC.
Her prize is a man who ran out on his wife and children. His is a woman who is too stupid to understand that she is not special, she is simply there.
Will I ever thank him? No, I might have considered it had he done this before we had kids but I'll never thank him for dragging my kids into this.
Maybe I'll thank the universe - but she kinda owed me one after putting that lower muppet in my path.
My SO, however, would love to send him a thank you note!
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She took too much away from me with the loss of my daughter to ever thank her for anything. She is pure evil to the core.
Not bitter, just hugely resentful.
It would be strange, on the other hand, to send WXGF a thank you note for the pleasure of meeting some really cool people at a G2G.
Send them -- no way. They would try to get some sort of payment out of me.
Hugs, K
I thank the universe daily for freeing me from that toxic piece of shit. But I will never thank him...because he is a toxic piece of shit.
^^^^This. Great minds think alike.
Hope you get that satisfaction, trumanshow!
Have to agree with Jpapa, too! Infinitely better than the person I was hanging around with!
Am I grateful? Oh hell yes.
I could have done without the pain, however laying awake in my bed early this morning, watching the sunrise over Venice, Italy, having my daughters right next to me, taking them on a Gondola ride today and knowing that a wonderful silverfox with baby blue eyes and a tan is waiting for me half way around the world - I count my blessings every day many times over.
With XH, I would never have been able to have this vacation with my girls and my parents. With him gone, I experience the love of real man, not somebody who refuses to grow up.
I will never thank him but I will not hide how happy I am without him.
I did contemplate sending a thank you card to the OW after my divorce hearing but don't want to give them the satisfaction either.
He could have been a adult about it and left the marriage prior to starting any of his numerous affairs.
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
I had been happy before, and I always knew I would be happy again. I don't feel any particular need to spike the ball after the play.
Do not back up. Severe tire damage.
