t/j from JFO - Therapist said not to tell BS.
I have been conflicted with this since the beginning.
When I first found out about my STBXH and OW. I was told by H that it was an EA, blah blah and he stuck to this story for 1 year.
Anyway, in very beginning I made the worst mistake - I told my H, I'm going to call OW (friend) - Rule #1 of what NOT TO DO. of course OW, then told some bullshit story to her BH and by the time I got to BH, next day - he didn't want to hear from me.
I tried contacting him just to talk to him during all that LIMBO horrible time - and he never either answer the phone or return any of my calls.
STBXH finally was forced to move out and I again texted OBS, to let him know and to call me, - OW, responded to the text - that BS knew all about H moving out and that she had also moved out. That was a horrible day for me.
After that I never tried contacting him again. The affair ended, OW moves back in with her BS, and is now pregnant (no not STBX's).
After affair ended is when he comes clean - that it was actually a 3year PA. He tries several times to get back with me, but I had to "get over it" it's the past" - and of course no show of remorse,Not willing to do IC, MC.
I say FTG, I find a new great job, sell the house, get rid of car Skank sat in, move to a new place, NC.
So, I know what a liar OW was, and I can guarantee that her BS, does not know of what extent this A was, The one and only time he texted me he said, "this takes two, but your H was in the middle of my marriage". which makes me think that she told him that my H was pursuing her with unwanted advances.
Her BS does not know of the 3 yr PA. But I have moved on, she moved back with her BS.
So what good will it do for me? I am not a vengeful person, But it irks me, to know that she is getting away scott free! and what my friends say is at this point you have nothing to gain, and leave revenge to God.
The other important part is that I might piss her off, because she now has everything to loose, being pregnant, that she will call the cops or put a restraining order (I have not seen her in 3 years) - I travel for work, and I understand that traveling with a RO, is difficult at the airport.
Not sure if I have a question, but this has been my conflict within, and I want to let it go one way or another.