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Topic: Work ethical dilemma
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UnexpectedSong
♀ 21761
Member # 21761 |  Posted: 5:20 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013 |     |
Rick, another manager, asked me if I would join his team. He specifically told me not to mention this to my current manager Victor. I turned down Rick's job.
Should I tell Victor that I got an offer from Rick?
A coworker told me there are no-poaching policies at work. This was definitely poaching.
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authenticnow
♀ 16024
Member # 16024 | | Posted: 5:50 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013 | |
Is there a company policy handbook you can look at?
I wouldn't take a co-worker's word for it. Why not find out what the policy is regarding that and then you can decide how you want to proceed.
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cayc
♀ 21964
Member # 21964 | | Posted: 7:44 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013 | |
Since you turned it down (ie did the right thing), I wouldn't do anything more. The only thing you'll accomplish if you do tell is to make an enemy out of Rick and that could come back to haunt you at a later date.
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caregiver9000
♀ 28622
Member # 28622 | | Posted: 7:52 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013 | |
I probably would not say anything. But depending on your relationship with Victor, maybe a "hypothetical" question whether this would be the type of disclosure he would expect.
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UnexpectedSong
♀ 21761
Member # 21761 | | Posted: 1:21 AM, August 5th (Monday), 2013 | |
I like the hypothetical approach. I dunno. I can't tell Victor without telling him that it's Rick. Maybe I just won't say anything, since there's nothing to tell. I do not want to make an enemy out of Rick.
I just don't know if I owe it to Victor to tell him.
Maybe not. I don't need any more drama at work. I'm the last person to seek drama and somehow drama swirls around me.
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aesir
♂ 17210
Member # 17210 | | Posted: 6:25 AM, August 5th (Monday), 2013 | |
I would say the first rule at work would be personal survival, especially in the present economy. While it may not be an imminent threat, best not to risk making enemies.
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UnexpectedSong
♀ 21761
Member # 21761 | | Posted: 9:18 AM, August 5th (Monday), 2013 | |
personal survival
Ok, that works for me! 
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