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Rick, another manager, asked me if I would join his team. He specifically told me not to mention this to my current manager Victor. I turned down Rick's job.

Should I tell Victor that I got an offer from Rick?

A coworker told me there are no-poaching policies at work. This was definitely poaching.

Is there a company policy handbook you can look at?

I wouldn't take a co-worker's word for it. Why not find out what the policy is regarding that and then you can decide how you want to proceed.

Since you turned it down (ie did the right thing), I wouldn't do anything more. The only thing you'll accomplish if you do tell is to make an enemy out of Rick and that could come back to haunt you at a later date.

I probably would not say anything. But depending on your relationship with Victor, maybe a "hypothetical" question whether this would be the type of disclosure he would expect.

I like the hypothetical approach. I dunno. I can't tell Victor without telling him that it's Rick. Maybe I just won't say anything, since there's nothing to tell. I do not want to make an enemy out of Rick.

I just don't know if I owe it to Victor to tell him.

Maybe not. I don't need any more drama at work. I'm the last person to seek drama and somehow drama swirls around me.

I would say the first rule at work would be personal survival, especially in the present economy. While it may not be an imminent threat, best not to risk making enemies.

personal survival

Ok, that works for me!