SurvivingInfidelity.com Forum Archives

Return to Forum List

this is sticky...

You are not logged in. Login here or register.

rachelc posted 9/20/2013 09:49 AM

so my boss had to identify three people he wanted on a team. I am already the 4th member of the team because of my job description. However, he wanted my input on the team. People get paid extra for this.

I am in no position to decide if my peers should get extra pay. This just seems wrong to me. And when I talked to him yesterday he had these people already picked out. So, 5 other people didn't get on the team.

But, he sends out an email saying that he, the other boss and I picked the team and here's who we chose. Damn. Now I feel I should go to the people not chosen - or heck even the ppl chosen - and say I really didn't have anything to do with this. It's really important for me to maintain a relationship with all my fellow co-workers.

Or do I just let it go?

Lucky2HaveMe posted 9/20/2013 10:04 AM

I think I might let it go unless someone says something. But I'm conflict avoidant so that may be just me.

tushnurse posted 9/20/2013 10:07 AM

Dont kick that sleeping dog.

Lucky2HaveMe posted 9/20/2013 10:29 AM

And ya know, oftentimes those that defend themselves the loudest are perceived as guilty. Something to think about.

Sad in AZ posted 9/20/2013 12:11 PM

Don't go to the people you work with, but I would approach my boss about being open and above board in the messages he sends out. If you had nothing to do with it, he should not have said so. This is just weird.

aesir posted 9/20/2013 15:28 PM

You can't say anything IMNSHO. You just have to trust that everyone will figure out that your input was at best limited, not the deciding factor.

To go and talk to everyone involved will just be seen as office gossip at best, and perhaps disloyalty (or not being a team player) at worst. It will also harm your credibility with management if you have any aspirations of moving up in your career. It is not uncommon for managers to make a decision on their own, and then describe it as consensus afterwards. There are some valid reasons and some invalid reasons for doing this. I don't know what your bosses reasons were, but they were his reasons, and that's where the authority is.

jrc1963 posted 9/20/2013 21:20 PM

I would just let it go...

This is a work situation. And in work, as in life, you win some and you lose some. (sorry for the cliche) but people need to be mature enough to handle their own disappointment.

I'm a firm believer in workplace boundaries anyway. These people are co-workers, not buddies. If they get spiteful or hold a grudge over a perceived slight, then that's their problem, not yours.

But that's just my opinion.

Return to Forum List

© 2002-2018 SurvivingInfidelity.com ®. All Rights Reserved.     Privacy Policy