My husband's affair happened 9 years ago and I only found out in August last year. Because of the time lapse and because he has spent the last 9 years trying to put the A and all the details out of his mind, he doesn't remember quite a lot of the details that I really want to know about. We have tried everything,
including hypnosis, but nothing has been completely successful I'm afraid. I know the big stuff and I am having to accept that some of the small stuff I will simply never know! It drives me crazy as I am very detail oriented.. I want to know all of it, down to the smallest detail!
Just not going to happen for me!
About the hypnosis - fWH spoke to his IC (a clinical psychologist) about hypnosis, she doesn't do it, but she recommended another clinical psychologist who does hypnosis. Off fWH went, armed with a list of questions that I had given him. She had an initial consultation with him, to talk to him and establish that he was stable enough for hypnosis, and to get the back-ground of our story, she also took the list of questions. He then went back a week later for the actual hypnosis. Honestly, it was so disappointing! I got literally nothing new out of it! At the follow up appointment all she said is that he seems truly remorseful. WTF? What about my questions??? She then told fWH that there was no way she would ever have been able to get that kind of detail out of him. I was furious! Why didn't she tell him that when she first saw the questions, before she even did the hypnosis?! A total waste of time and money in our case!