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User Topic: Wtf? I thought I had blocked her!!
Getting to Happy
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Please! You are too kind. Don't overthink this.

She wants to engage your WH in her messy life matter how she is couching the contact.

Like you really needed to be reminded of this...

I was just getting questioned by the doctor the other day...if I could find out about B's history

She had to admit that she got pregnant from a MM? UGH!

Push her and her whelp back into the oblivion where they belong.

Please don't entertain for one second that she is doing anything but fishing for a response. As she says in her missive, the kid is fine.

So why rattle your cage...Because she can?!

Let her lawyer and pediatrician figure all of that out. If necessary.

*Crickets* then block that account.

Sheesh, get lost already AP!!

[This message edited by Getting to Happy at 10:56 AM, September 29th (Sunday)]

WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.

Posts: 1140 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
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Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If she needs medical information, her doctor or lawyer can contact you.
Otherwise ignore her- I would.

Me BS (41)
Him WH (45). EA and possible PA (denied)
D Day 7/21/2013
M 8 years - filing for D

**The cruelest lies are often told in silence- Robert Louis Stevenson

Posts: 115 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New Zealand
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Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just finished reading your profile and I find myself wondering if this is some sort of a ploy to throw you off of something, or to let you know that she has a fake FB account and maybe he does too. It just seems awfully suspicious that she would "proudly" acknowledge that your WS has blocked her from everything. It's not something OW like to admit to often to a BS.

I don't know, but this whole thing is going to be a mess. She wants Dr's info now, in a few months she's going to want $$$ in a few more months she'll want something else. I just don't see this woman stopping.

What is the status between you and your WS right now?

BS: 40
WS: 42
Two boys 13/11
Married 15 years
Dday: too Many to remember. 3 significant OW and many "less"'significant OW. Believe WS has bad boundaries and craves the attention.
In R.

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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is still stationed in S. Korea and should be returning soon. Still waiting on orders. We are supposed to be Ring. He seems to be in it and everything, but with the being in different countries thing, it is hard to be sure because he is limited on actions to back up his words. I have snooped as much as I can, and she is right, he has blocked her from everything. But I can't say that I would be totally shocked if they had some other connection going on...although it would be even more f'ed up because now she is married also.

Honestly, when I saw her name in my inbox, my first thought was "Oh great! Here she is to tell me my WH is still talking to her..." But like I said, I can't find anything to support that.

I'm pretty sure she was just trying to 'check up on things' or see if she could either cause some kind of reaction. Maybe she is hoping that I tell my WH she talked to me, and then he in turn makes a secret account and contacts her on his own.

I don't know, but there is no medical history that on his side of the family that she really needs to know of.

I just blocked her. If she really needs to know something, then she can get a lawyer and contact my WH.

Also from her first statement that 'B blocked me from everything', it is clear that she did try to contact him first and didn't go straight for me in order to be as non confrontational as possible.

She also admitted herself that the baby is fine. I feel like her response was much too detailed, like she was trying to lure me into being nice and trying to make me feel for the child.

[This message edited by Tired05 at 3:08 PM, September 29th (Sunday)]

Together 6 yrs. M 4 yrs. DD born 3/1/2013.
Me: BS -- Him: 1 EA/PA (6mos), PA (MW), and 6 ONS...Been at it for almost 5 yrs. *Still slave to TT* 1st DDay- 11/24/2012,
.....OC due in August.....

Posts: 122 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: United States
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Send her email to her new H, tell him that she has tried to contact your WH and you, that NCNC, and should she try to contact either of you again, you will jointly pursue an RO. If there's nothing to disclose, then this is all of the "courtesy" that you owe them. And OH has been alerted, if he doesn't know, that his lovely wife is fishing.

If they (not her) are truly serious about asking about health history at this point, then they can spend the money to go to a lawyer and have a letter drafted up requesting the info. At that point, you can jointly reply back to the lawyer, and tell the lawyer that now that this information has been transmitted, you expect and demand complete NC from that "family," jointly and individually.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

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Default  Posted: 2:38 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


If you want to put a stop to getting messages from new accounts she creates, go into your account settings and check off that only friends of friends can message you. You won't get messages from her anymore unless one of your friends adds her as a friend.

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Default  Posted: 5:46 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay, so there has been 4 months of NC, she has gotten married to someone else, and had a child, then contacts you requesting information about the fathers medical history.
Maybe I am naive, but I think it is worth considering the possibility that she wants medical information about her child's father.

I very much doubt it. I think she's using it as an in. I have no contact with my bio dad and managed to get myself and my kids through medical histories just fine.

Since she had to create a brand new FB to contact, at that point she could have just contacted Tired's H. That she didn't shows that she's STILL a liar. She said she would have contacted him, but he's blocked her everywhere. Well, if she has a new account, voila, she's unblocked. If she can contact Tired (and she had her blocked) then she can contact the Tired's H.

Anyway, here's what I'd do, and then be done with it for good. Go to a drs office and obtain one of the sheets they have you fill out on medical history and full it out with your husbands information. Send it certified mail and then re-block her in FB with no other contact. IMO, she is fishing an using her kid as an excuse.

[This message edited by thenon-goddess at 5:50 AM, September 30th (Monday)]

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Default  Posted: 2:26 AM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why did she create a new account and contact me instead of him? We both have her blocked, so if she creates a new FB with neither of us blocking her...why am I the one she contacts?

My FWH's OC is now 5 years old.

To this day, OW has NEVER contacted FWH regarding OC. She has never attempted to contact him regarding OC (she had the nerve to try to message him to invite him to a party--not for OC).

OW has ALWAYS contacted me. Not with benevolent intentions, mind you. She told me shortly after announcing her pregnancy (and FWH refusing to leave me for her) that she would "never let Want2help forget about her and OC". I have been her sole target in her mission to destroy.

There is a possibility that the child failed the newborn hearing test. There is no possibility that she was unable to contact your FWH to ask. In my (albeit biased) opinion, she is reminding you that she and OC still exist, lest you forget.

BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
OC born 3/08
OC Adopted 2014


Posts: 2311 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If she wanted to contact your husband, she could have done what my one-time female stalker would do when I blocked her current number: call from a pay phone and use a friend's phone.

Age: 64..ummmmmmm,, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks

Posts: 7281 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So is she honestly and truthfully worried about her child or is she using the child to continue contact and insert herself back into the M? Is it a little of both?

Probably both, but which one its more of, who knows.

I have never been in your shoes, so I have no idea what kind of pain this is for you.

That child though is innocent and didnt ask to be born to a cheater.

I would talk to you lawyer about the conversation, and then do a full medical history on the father. The child should at least be given that much. But do it through a lawyer or the doctors office only, not through her. I would try very very hard not to go through her....

I am so sorry you have to go through all this.

Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit

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