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HFSSC (original poster member #33338) posted at 4:38 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
I left my house for work this morning at about 10 til 7. Normal day. Nice weather.
Turned a curve about 4 miles from home and encountered the worst accident I've ever seen. It had JUST happened. 2 people had stopped and were trying to attend to the victims and direct traffic. I rolled my window down, identified myself as a nurse and asked if everyone was okay. Nope. They were not okay.
I pulled off the road, went to the fist car. It was unrecognizable. The guy who had stopped before me said, "I can't find a pulse. Maybe you can." The person's brain was exposed. There was no pulse. I couldn't even tell if it was a man or woman. Their eyes were open, staring. It was the worst thing I have ever seen.
The other lady was pinned in her van. Her leg appeared to have been broken horribly. She was bleeding but it didn't seem uncontrolled and I think the entrapment may have helped that. I stayed with her and talked to her until EMS got there.
I've been a nurse for 25 years. I have never seen anything like what I saw this morning. God rest that poor soul, and comfort their family. 
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
yewtree ( member #16671) posted at 4:40 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
(((HFSSC))) And thank goodness you happened upon the accident and could be there to comfort and provide assistance.
Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)
Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 - No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 4:42 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
How absolutely horrible!
How are you doing?
((((HFSSC))))
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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 4:44 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
(((HFSSC)))
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HFSSC (original poster member #33338) posted at 4:48 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
How are you doing?
Not really good. I can't get the image out of my mind. And I feel really shitty for feeling so traumatized when I'm not the one who was killed, I didn't know them, their family is going to be hit with this.
Not sure if that made sense or not.
I am glad I could comfort the lady who was in the other car. But just overwhelmed with the whole thing. If I had left my house 5 minutes earlier, it could have been me.
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
deeplysad ( member #16590) posted at 4:56 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
And I feel really shitty for feeling so traumatized
Of course you feel traumatized...you are a compassionate person. How could anyone not be traumatized by witnessing what you did?
((((HFSSC)))
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Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 4:57 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
(((HFSSC)))
Of course it is traumatic! You are human and empathetic. There is no guilt in feeling shock and sadness for others and then FEELING it yourself.
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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 4:57 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
If I had left my house 5 minutes earlier, it could have been me.
That was the first thing I thought of after feeling so sad for you, HFSSC, for witnessing such disturbing carnage. Don't feel guilty, even professional EMT's have a hard time with seeing certain things and dealing with their feelings. Very normal. 
(((((HFSSC)))))
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d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 4:59 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
Were the first people at the scene witnesses? Did they see what happened?
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 5:02 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
How awful for everyone. ((((HFSSc)))
I would be more worried if you weren't feeling anything.
Hugs,
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HFSSC (original poster member #33338) posted at 5:04 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
I'm not sure if the first people witnessed or just came up on the wreck. It's a secondary road that doesn't see a lot of traffic until a little later in the morning.
The lady who was alive was saying the other car just came spinning into her lane with no warning. It was on a curve. I'm not sure if the driver lost control because of speed or maybe went off the road and overcorrected. But they had to have been going pretty fast because the car was absolutely demolished. The victim was half into the back seat.
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 5:10 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
So very sad. I was thinking a high speed must have been involved because of the car being demolished. Ugh! My heart goes out to you and the victim(s) families. As having a sister die on the side of a rural road, I thank you for stopping. (((HFSSC)))
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:15 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
You can call me NIK
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thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 5:17 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
((((HFSSC))))
How horrible for everyone involved. The injured woman was lucky you were there to evaluate her situation, then comfort and help calm her. She and her family will be grateful she had that. I'm thinking also of the man who was there before you and tried to help. He must be having a very difficult time also. Hugs for everyone around this.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 5:17 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
What a nightmare. Prayers for everyone involved.
(((HFSSC)))
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KBeguile ( member #38348) posted at 5:18 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
((((HFSSC))))
It's truly remarkable when your instincts just kick in and you're able to use your training to help in those kinds of situation. Bravo.
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Her: BS 37 (HeartInADustpan)
DS: 7yo
M: 9 years
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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 5:20 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 5:21 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
Oh no ((HUGS)) I'm sorry, that is so terrible.
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 5:22 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
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TrulyReconciled ( member #3031) posted at 5:25 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
I'm sorry HFSSC that this happened to you.
"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."
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