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Thornier posted 9/13/2017 05:27 AM

Last night I was sitting by the computer when notifications started popping up from Facebook in the corner of the screen. They were from messages from a third party to WW. My curiosity peaked, I opened a tab to WW's facebook messenger and sat there watching the fireworks fly...

It went down something like this.

3rd "I don't want anyone to be mad at me I'm just his friend."
WW: I'm not angry
3rd: I just told him you came over because you were worried about him. I told him just now."
WW: Um, I may be mad at you now! He just lashed out at me. You knew he'd react that way!
3rd: He said you already told him. Why would he lash out? I haven't done anything?
WW: Just don't talk to me again!
3rd: K
WW: I don't want to be that way but I'm so mad at you right now.
3rd: Wouldn't you want your friend to tell you if your boyfriend had stopped over? We did nothing wrong.
WW: I know, he assumes I want everyone. I won't make that mistake again.
3rd: He said he didn't care!
WW: He's mad and he said he's done!

It went on for a bit longer as WW talked about loving AP and wanting what was best for him. 3rd party protested that he was just being a friend to AP and it culminated in WW asking "Are you saying he didn't love me?" at which point it went to a voice call.

Apparently, WW asked AP to quit or severely curtail his drinking on Saturday. She was drinking on Friday and became buzzed, the 3rd party was the person who drove her car to my house. (It wasn't actually AP.) on Saturday she dropped by the 3rd party's home to thank him for driving her and her car home. (My daughter was with her and amused herself by mocking AP and calling him ugly!) AP got absurdly jealous and called WW a player and accused her of cheating on him, etc!

It was frankly delicious to watch. I felt like popping some popcorn!

WW wife ran to the store as this conversation started so I was home with kiddo and got to watch it unfold in peace!

scorpio6 posted 9/13/2017 09:20 AM

he assumes I want everyone

Apparently, AP has trust issues with your WW... after all, if she is sleeping with him while she's married to you...

OrdinaryDude posted 9/13/2017 12:12 PM

What's that old saying...?

Oh, yeah, I remember now...

"If they will cheat with you, they will cheat on you."

TimelessLoss posted 9/13/2017 12:19 PM

Doesn't get any better than that...live play by play. Who woulda' thunk that there'd be trust issues between APs?

Skan posted 9/13/2017 13:22 PM

I am shocked, shocked, I tell you, by the fact that two cheaters might have a slightest inkling that they might not be Faithful to each other! My mind has officially boggled.

Would someone pass me the popcorn?

shiloe posted 9/13/2017 13:29 PM

Are you saying he didn't love me?"

Apparently not!

Lalagirl posted 9/13/2017 13:34 PM

Would someone pass me the popcorn?

I'll take mine with extra butter, hold the bullshit.

My god, their conversation looks like something straight out of middle school....with one exception: the word "like" wasn't every other word.

WW wife ran to the store as this conversation started so I was home with kiddo and got to watch it unfold in peace!

CincyKid posted 9/13/2017 13:44 PM

Her AP knows he's in a relationship with a known cheater. Some people wonder if their SO could cheat. He doesn't wonder, He knows she can. No way either one of them can ever feel really safe with each other. That's probably a big part of why those types of relationships have about a 97% fail rate.

[This message edited by CincyKid at 2:22 PM, September 13th (Wednesday)]

1survivor posted 9/13/2017 13:59 PM

Whats the old saying..."if they are willing to cheat WITH you , they will probably cheat ON you ". Lol!

Thornier posted 9/13/2017 14:13 PM

Only downside is I found a massive security hole and read all their often nasty texts not long afterwards... I regret looking. How could I have resisted looking though.

I felt a lot of joy.... Now I feel a lot of pain.

Wool94 posted 9/13/2017 16:56 PM

I had to see all the messages I could, no matter how bad they hurt.

I understand what you are going through. I've pulled for you from the beginning.

I love the fact that you're DD was making fun of the ugly AP.

STRENGTH BROTHER!

[This message edited by Wool94 at 4:57 PM, September 13th (Wednesday)]

Thornier posted 9/14/2017 14:56 PM

AP spent almost 48 hours straight calling my WW a whore, slut, player, hoe, lying cheating married woman, skank, etc... With a lot of cussing. He was texting about every 5 minutes at times.

Then this morning. "I just listened to your messages. I'm so sorry. It's not you, it's me. I love you so much..."

I think he successfully burnt the bridge though!

Also, WW's best friend told me he lives in his parent's basement, can't keep a steady job, and is a most likely a narcissist. Why are cheaters always picking such winners?

Dismayed2012 posted 9/14/2017 15:10 PM

Even if they make-up, they'll be back to breaking-up soon enough.

Thornier posted 9/15/2017 19:45 PM

They made up. The intelligent woman I married is now a complete friggin moron.

The man shows Narcissistic tendencies, is a probable alcoholic, uses other stuff too, lives in his parent's basement, and she is afraid if I knew everything he texted (I do) that I could claim endangerment and gain custody... I'm not even sure he has a drivers license. She is an absolute friggin moron.

She had a husband who loves her enough to still be willing to try and work things out after all this crap and she wants to crawl back to him after being cussed at and called names for 40 hours straight. Screw this...

And my hearing got another continuance. At least my lil girl is here while she is running around.

[This message edited by Thornier at 7:54 PM, September 15th (Friday)]

tessthemess posted 9/15/2017 20:37 PM

At least, if there's some cold comfort here, it's not that the A is all magical and wonderful.

5454real posted 9/15/2017 20:43 PM

she is afraid if I knew everything he texted (I do) that I could claim endangerment and gain custody...

She could be right. What's your lawyer think?

Idiotmcstupid posted 9/15/2017 20:56 PM

All the popcorn in the world isn't enough...

Thornier posted 9/15/2017 21:23 PM

I don't know...

I will export it to a text file (cut it down to just his junk) on Monday and send it.

I'm tired of having my love pissed on by WW for someone who is inferior to e in everything but health.

5454real posted 9/15/2017 21:36 PM

I think more important to the court, would be her reaction to his texts. Is she truly willing to endanger her children?

That will be the key factor my friend.