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Thornier (original poster member #57865) posted at 11:27 AM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2017
Last night I was sitting by the computer when notifications started popping up from Facebook in the corner of the screen. They were from messages from a third party to WW. My curiosity peaked, I opened a tab to WW's facebook messenger and sat there watching the fireworks fly...
It went down something like this.
3rd "I don't want anyone to be mad at me I'm just his friend."
WW: I'm not angry
3rd: I just told him you came over because you were worried about him. I told him just now."
WW: Um, I may be mad at you now! He just lashed out at me. You knew he'd react that way!
3rd: He said you already told him. Why would he lash out? I haven't done anything?
WW: Just don't talk to me again!
3rd: K
WW: I don't want to be that way but I'm so mad at you right now.
3rd: Wouldn't you want your friend to tell you if your boyfriend had stopped over? We did nothing wrong.
WW: I know, he assumes I want everyone. I won't make that mistake again.
3rd: He said he didn't care!
WW: He's mad and he said he's done!
It went on for a bit longer as WW talked about loving AP and wanting what was best for him. 3rd party protested that he was just being a friend to AP and it culminated in WW asking "Are you saying he didn't love me?" at which point it went to a voice call.
Apparently, WW asked AP to quit or severely curtail his drinking on Saturday. She was drinking on Friday and became buzzed, the 3rd party was the person who drove her car to my house. (It wasn't actually AP.) on Saturday she dropped by the 3rd party's home to thank him for driving her and her car home. (My daughter was with her and amused herself by mocking AP and calling him ugly!) AP got absurdly jealous and called WW a player and accused her of cheating on him, etc!
It was frankly delicious to watch. I felt like popping some popcorn!
WW wife ran to the store as this conversation started so I was home with kiddo and got to watch it unfold in peace!
BS D-Days: AP#1 (3 months long) 12/15/2013, AP#2 (total of 1 year) 2/24/2017, AP#3 (ongoing) 8/11/2017. TT/continued contact with AP#2 throughout 2/24/2017-6/22/2017
WW Filed for D 7/11/2017 (Separated 9/22/2017)
One daughter: 10yo
scorpio6 ( member #59917) posted at 3:20 PM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2017
he assumes I want everyone
Apparently, AP has trust issues with your WW... after all, if she is sleeping with him while she's married to you...
OrdinaryDude ( member #55676) posted at 6:12 PM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2017
What's that old saying...?
Oh, yeah, I remember now...
"If they will cheat with you, they will cheat on you."
I was young and dumb and stayed with a cheater.
TimelessLoss ( member #55295) posted at 6:19 PM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2017
Doesn't get any better than that...live play by play. Who woulda' thunk that there'd be trust issues between APs?
"You've got to learn to leave the table when love is no longer being served"
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 7:22 PM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2017
I am shocked, shocked, I tell you, by the fact that two cheaters might have a slightest inkling that they might not be Faithful to each other! My mind has officially boggled.
Would someone pass me the popcorn?
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
shiloe ( member #1224) posted at 7:29 PM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2017
Are you saying he didn't love me?"
Apparently not!
But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 58 Dday 03/2011
Cheater -58 Married 26 yrs
DD - 23 DD -21 DS-19
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA- new MCOW D-2/17
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 7:34 PM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2017
Would someone pass me the popcorn?
I'll take mine with extra butter, hold the bullshit.
My god, their conversation looks like something straight out of middle school....with one exception: the word "like" wasn't every other word.
WW wife ran to the store as this conversation started so I was home with kiddo and got to watch it unfold in peace!
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
CincyKid ( member #57948) posted at 7:44 PM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2017
Her AP knows he's in a relationship with a known cheater. Some people wonder if their SO could cheat. He doesn't wonder, He knows she can. No way either one of them can ever feel really safe with each other. That's probably a big part of why those types of relationships have about a 97% fail rate.
[This message edited by CincyKid at 2:22 PM, September 13th (Wednesday)]
Betrayed, life over...
Life goes on...
Met sunshine girl, fell in love...
Reconnected with wonderful DD...
Married sunshine girl, happy as can be!!!
1survivor ( member #49999) posted at 7:59 PM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2017
Whats the old saying..."if they are willing to cheat WITH you , they will probably cheat ON you ". Lol!
Thornier (original poster member #57865) posted at 8:13 PM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2017
Only downside is I found a massive security hole and read all their often nasty texts not long afterwards... I regret looking. How could I have resisted looking though.
I felt a lot of joy.... Now I feel a lot of pain.
BS D-Days: AP#1 (3 months long) 12/15/2013, AP#2 (total of 1 year) 2/24/2017, AP#3 (ongoing) 8/11/2017. TT/continued contact with AP#2 throughout 2/24/2017-6/22/2017
WW Filed for D 7/11/2017 (Separated 9/22/2017)
One daughter: 10yo
Wool94 ( member #53300) posted at 10:56 PM on Wednesday, September 13th, 2017
I had to see all the messages I could, no matter how bad they hurt.
I understand what you are going through. I've pulled for you from the beginning.
I love the fact that you're DD was making fun of the ugly AP.
STRENGTH BROTHER!
[This message edited by Wool94 at 4:57 PM, September 13th (Wednesday)]
D-Day #1: April 7, 2016
D-Day #2: May 21, 2016
D-Day #3: June 7, 2016
Me: 1975
Her:WW (amn8r) 1981
Son 2006
Daughter 2009
"God not only loves you, but He actually likes you. "-Stephen Hooks
"My faith is mine now."
Thornier (original poster member #57865) posted at 8:56 PM on Thursday, September 14th, 2017
AP spent almost 48 hours straight calling my WW a whore, slut, player, hoe, lying cheating married woman, skank, etc... With a lot of cussing. He was texting about every 5 minutes at times.
Then this morning. "I just listened to your messages. I'm so sorry. It's not you, it's me. I love you so much..."
I think he successfully burnt the bridge though!
Also, WW's best friend told me he lives in his parent's basement, can't keep a steady job, and is a most likely a narcissist. Why are cheaters always picking such winners?
BS D-Days: AP#1 (3 months long) 12/15/2013, AP#2 (total of 1 year) 2/24/2017, AP#3 (ongoing) 8/11/2017. TT/continued contact with AP#2 throughout 2/24/2017-6/22/2017
WW Filed for D 7/11/2017 (Separated 9/22/2017)
One daughter: 10yo
Dismayed2012 ( member #49151) posted at 9:10 PM on Thursday, September 14th, 2017
Even if they make-up, they'll be back to breaking-up soon enough.
Infidelity sucks. Freedom rocks.
Thornier (original poster member #57865) posted at 1:45 AM on Saturday, September 16th, 2017
They made up. The intelligent woman I married is now a complete friggin moron.
The man shows Narcissistic tendencies, is a probable alcoholic, uses other stuff too, lives in his parent's basement, and she is afraid if I knew everything he texted (I do) that I could claim endangerment and gain custody... I'm not even sure he has a drivers license. She is an absolute friggin moron.
She had a husband who loves her enough to still be willing to try and work things out after all this crap and she wants to crawl back to him after being cussed at and called names for 40 hours straight. Screw this...
And my hearing got another continuance. At least my lil girl is here while she is running around.
[This message edited by Thornier at 7:54 PM, September 15th (Friday)]
BS D-Days: AP#1 (3 months long) 12/15/2013, AP#2 (total of 1 year) 2/24/2017, AP#3 (ongoing) 8/11/2017. TT/continued contact with AP#2 throughout 2/24/2017-6/22/2017
WW Filed for D 7/11/2017 (Separated 9/22/2017)
One daughter: 10yo
tessthemess ( member #56395) posted at 2:37 AM on Saturday, September 16th, 2017
At least, if there's some cold comfort here, it's not that the A is all magical and wonderful.
Free Bird, 36. STBXH, 36
EA confirmed Nov. '16, PA exposed Dec 11, 2016.
No longer a mess.
Separated and heading towards D as of June 1, 2018.
"It's a good life if you don't weaken." - Gord Downie
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 2:43 AM on Saturday, September 16th, 2017
she is afraid if I knew everything he texted (I do) that I could claim endangerment and gain custody...
She could be right. What's your lawyer think?
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
99problems ( member #59373) posted at 2:56 AM on Saturday, September 16th, 2017
All the popcorn in the world isn't enough...
Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,
Thornier (original poster member #57865) posted at 3:23 AM on Saturday, September 16th, 2017
I don't know...
I will export it to a text file (cut it down to just his junk) on Monday and send it.
I'm tired of having my love pissed on by WW for someone who is inferior to e in everything but health.
BS D-Days: AP#1 (3 months long) 12/15/2013, AP#2 (total of 1 year) 2/24/2017, AP#3 (ongoing) 8/11/2017. TT/continued contact with AP#2 throughout 2/24/2017-6/22/2017
WW Filed for D 7/11/2017 (Separated 9/22/2017)
One daughter: 10yo
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 3:36 AM on Saturday, September 16th, 2017
I think more important to the court, would be her reaction to his texts. Is she truly willing to endanger her children?
That will be the key factor my friend.
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
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