Cookies on SurvivingInfidelity.com®

SurvivingInfidelity.com® uses cookies to enhance your visit to our website. This is a requirement for participants to login, post and use other features. Visitors may opt out, but the website will be less functional for you.

more information about cookies...

Return to Forum List

Return to The Book Club

SurvivingInfidelity.com® > The Book Club

You are not logged in. Login here or register.

Forgiving the unforgivable

DidntdeserveIt posted 12/12/2017 22:56 PM

I'm about 1/2 way through this book and I like how it breaks down the steps of working through the process..... especially the anger that I have it makes total sense that I can't let go of anger until I feel he has been punished/accepted his consequences. He murdered our marriage so there has to be justice for that offense!

Anyone read/ reading this? Was it helpful?

BearlyBreathing posted 12/13/2017 06:59 AM

I am about halfway through as well. I like it, it does speak to the process and allows the blame.

sewardak posted 12/13/2017 07:33 AM

"He murdered our marriage so there has to be justice for that offense!"
why justice?

DidntdeserveIt posted 12/13/2017 08:17 AM

Hi sewardak,

Justice because you can't just get away with murder there are consequences for his actions. Like jail takes away the freedom and choices of prisoners. WH will have to lose some freedom and choices for a bit to rebalance the scales that he tipped WAY too far in his favor. He took choices away from me and he doesn't get to go on living his normal life and I just magically arrive at forgiveness.

I use to think time got you to forgiveness but I do realize that if you have the person who injured you in your life then if they accept the blame and consequences (punishment) then you get there faster. Book warns don't get stuck in punishing or blame stage.

And I'm sure punishment should fit the crime. Most of what I feel he should lose are things that add safety to my life. Ex: can't go out of town without me for leisure. Loss of best friend who was there when you cheated. Etc

Minnesota posted 12/13/2017 16:33 PM

I "Amazoned" this and found four different books by four different authors. Which one?

DidntdeserveIt posted 12/13/2017 18:57 PM

Oh sorry it's the one by Beverly Flanigan

JerseyCowgirl posted 12/26/2017 05:59 AM

Thank you for recommending this book. It is very good. I had alot of abuse in my life and it is helping me deal with that anger and hurt.


Return to Forum List

Return to The Book Club

© 2002-2020 SurvivingInfidelity.com ®. All Rights Reserved.     Privacy Policy