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 Phcj123 (original poster member #71603) posted at 12:56 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2019

Husband cheated and left me 3 months ago. Have been doing pretty well until the holidays hit. Ex took our 15 month old son to Florida yesterday to visit his family for Xmas. I am Jewish so I don’t celebrate but just woke up sooo sad now that I will be alone. I had loved celebrating Xmas the last 8 years.

I just feel completely alone now. I have a small group of close friends and all are either married or live elsewhere. My only single close friend here has always had problems and is not reliable. She cancelled on our plans last minute sat night and cancelled New Years so now I have no plans. Have been doing online dating and can’t get one date.

How do you guys start over like this and get through the holidays alone ?

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cancuncrushed ( member #28156) posted at 1:15 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2019

This is my second Christmas alone. I have grown children They live far away. Thus divorce has broken our family. Everyone is sad and uncomfortable. They are building new lives. That makes me feel even more lonely.

I have told several people that I will be totally alone. They were all shocked. They have never known anyone to be alone on Christmas. Great. I felt worse.

I purposely decided to be alone this year. I’m tired of trying. And still not succeeding. It’s been 1.5 years since Xwh discarded me. The pain has lessened. I am stuck.

I’m working on my house. Staying busy with small projects. It’s hard to be enthusiastic It’s hard to be normal. I can not force it or rush it. I accept that. I’m healing. xwh was Npd This takes awhile. It was years of emotional abuse.

I don’t know my future. I do know it’s best to heal first. Time heals much. I have not dated. Haven’t met any men. I notice how strange it is to live around so many people in a big city. And I’m invisible.

It’s going to be better. There is no way but up. I will be ready

I’m doing the work. I’m reading the books recommended I’m findlly sleeping

[This message edited by cancuncrushed at 7:18 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)]

a trigger yesterday

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