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believehalf posted 1/12/2020 17:18 PM

My circle is getting smaller. Someone I haven’t heard from in some time reached out via text. She married into my WH family, she’s actually my SIL but they don’t talk much to the rest of the family. We went back and forth for a few days with catch up on our kids, me trying to be polite and genuinely interested in how my kids cousins were doing she began trying to arrange for a couples family get together, then she reached out to my mom who had been very involved with my WH family.

She was over sharing with me about some things in the family and I decided to come clean. I told her me and WH are not quite estranged but strained due to his seeking out partners on dating sights. (There’s no couples get together I’m interested in). She was at first all OMG OMG. By the next day...

I know your WH is out of work, maybe give him a break.

ohsospecial posted 1/12/2020 17:29 PM

It sounds like she already knew about the situation, and was over sharing in hopes that you would then confirm what she heard. Maybe someone else in WH family encouraged her to be a bridge-builder?

But, giving him a break?!? LOL.

cocoplus5nuts posted 1/12/2020 20:17 PM

Sounds to me, too, like she already knew and was fishing for more from you.

Give his cheating ass a break?!

OwningItNow posted 1/12/2020 22:03 PM

1. Someone got to her and "shared" the supposed other side of the story.
2. Or this is her way of stupidly playing middle of the road, can't-we-all-just-get-along.

Either way, really dumb thing to say. I hope she regretted it later on, like, "Did I actually say that? That's not what I meant." Stupid comment.

Adlham posted 1/12/2020 23:19 PM

I'm snarky enough that I would have looked at that person With wide-eyed innocence and said, wow, what a great idea!

Which bone do you suggest I break?

Ugh. I agree that it sounds like she knew something was up, at the VERY least, and wanted gossip.

What a ridiculous statement to try and justify someone else's bad behavior.

believehalf posted 1/13/2020 06:28 AM

Thank you for all your comments. I had not considered that she was simply digging, thank you for the insight !! We were still going back and forth, always finding a way to discuss her (family) money. I called her out on the give him a break comment and just ended things on my end. I don’t need certain people in my life and that’s okay.

pink carnation posted 1/13/2020 12:22 PM

People who dispense this type of advise have NO FRAME of reference for the personal wreckage you feel. I am sorry you had to endure such.

Big support from me.