WarriorPrincess posted 7/19/2020 15:22 PM

How can I prove he was involved with that chick so many years after the fact? I thought I had a copy of the NC letter he wrote to her, but I think I tossed it a couple of years into R, now wanting the pain of finding it again.

Any other ideas?

Ratpicker posted 7/19/2020 15:39 PM

What is your purpose for "proving" it? Is it for settling things in your own mind & heart? And I could certainly understand that issue!

If it were in the past, even with proof, many states won't let you use it for adultery grounds. Once you resume a marital relationship is it deemed forgiveness or it's equivalent. With that said, I was able to introduce evidence of old affair for two reasons - 1) he admitted to it in his deposition and 2) it showed a pattern with lots of evidence of the new OW affair.

You have to decide what you need for your own legal purposes and emotional healing.