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Weatherly (original poster member #18222) posted at 2:45 AM on Monday, April 20th, 2009
I went to a divorce support group on thursday. There was a woman there, my age, with kids the same ages as mine. We chatted for a bit.
The group was REALLY boring. When it was over, I walked out, and I hear my name being called, it was this woman. And she joked that the meetings were not usually that boring, and she really hoped I would come back sometime. She gave me her phone number and said something about us and the kids hanging out sometime.
Ok, now, I have her number, and would really like to make some new friends, but...it just seems odd to call up a total stranger to chat, ya know?
Yeah, i realize this almost sounds like a date type post, but seriously, i do not have female friends. I have very few friends period, most are ones I met online or people I have known for 20 yrs (yes, 20 yrs. Since I was 4)
And, this is like, the 3rd very similar situation this week I have been in.
I am not "batting for the other team" lol so, why do I feel so nervous about calling and asking if her and her kids wanna go to the park with me and mine?
I'm a dork. Really. 
Me-33 ,Two boys, 13 and 14
It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end
Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.
heartbroken30 ( member #18437) posted at 3:12 AM on Monday, April 20th, 2009
Weatherly,
I understand how you may feel this way.
Look at it this way. Maybe this woman is really lonely and needs a friend too.
It's obvious that she would like you to call her, otherwise she wouldn't have followed you out.
I think you should call and ask her if she wants to meet you at a park, such and such day.
Unless, maybe she is batting for the other team! 
Me - BS 42
Kids 12 and 9
Divorced
Weatherly (original poster member #18222) posted at 3:29 AM on Monday, April 20th, 2009
oops, hit enter too soon 
[This message edited by Weatherly at 9:34 PM, April 19th (Sunday)]
Me-33 ,Two boys, 13 and 14
It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end
Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.
Weatherly (original poster member #18222) posted at 3:33 AM on Monday, April 20th, 2009
Unless, maybe she is batting for the other team!
lol...that is like 3 women I have gotten phone number from this week. I am doing better then most the guys I know. Seriously though...I know my problem.
My problem is, I always think people are friendly just to be nice, not because they actually want to be friends with me. So, in my messed up little head, by not calling somebody, I am helping them, because they don't have to pretend to be nice. (I said it was messed up)
Which is dumb, I have been told lots lately I am likable. So...I should just make friends. I mean, try to make friends with the people who have made attempts.
Me-33 ,Two boys, 13 and 14
It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end
Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.
heartbroken30 ( member #18437) posted at 3:45 AM on Monday, April 20th, 2009
Which is dumb, I have been told lots lately I am likable. So...I should just make friends. I mean, try to make friends with the people who have made attempts.
It is dumb! You ARE likeable. I wouldn't give my number to someone just to be nice. Just call her and make a friend! And be nice to yourself!
Me - BS 42
Kids 12 and 9
Divorced
damncutekitty ( member #5929) posted at 5:03 AM on Monday, April 20th, 2009
Call her and go have coffee. You can never have too many frends!
12/18/15 found out my now EX boyfriend was trolling CL for underage girls. From the cops. The fun never stops.
wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 6:22 AM on Monday, April 20th, 2009
Give it a chance to be a new friend....
No risk... No reward...
It takes a friend to have a friend...
WB
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
sammie ( member #7785) posted at 6:39 AM on Monday, April 20th, 2009
This is how friends are made hon. You are both in the same boat. Give her a call and organise going for a coffee.
Hugs
Sammie
If someone loves you, it should feel like they love you.
Never give more of yourself than you are getting back.
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places." ~Ernest Hemingway
SunnySideUp ( member #3771) posted at 8:36 AM on Monday, April 20th, 2009
Weatherly-I think thats GREAT. It really isnt odd, to call up someone who has given you their number and chat and strike up a friendship. Not at all! You were AT a support group---thats what those things are ALL about---support and friendship. 
If you were at the foodstore and some strange girl walked up and handed you her number and asked for you to call....now, that might be a lil different
me 45 BS (a 23 year M-down the tubes!)
him WS 51
H had 3 week EA Aug 03 with an 'old GF from high school' D'd 6/07
Failed recovery maybe it was the drug addiction that came up Sept 05? Final straw was the condoms 8/06
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 11:09 AM on Monday, April 20th, 2009
Check the weather forecast, find out when it's going to be nice and make plans to meet with the kids at the local park.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
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