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BillieJean (original poster member #28635) posted at 7:56 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
WH and I met with my attorney and we signed the D papers. I have to say- I looked fabulous!
He read each paper twice...three times if you count last friday when he was served. He was shaking and swallowing hard. I asked him if he had anything he wanted to say. He got quiet and said he didn't think so. He teared up a little and said he promises to put DS first.
I didn't cry. We walked to our cars when we were done and he got to his first so I turned to him and he smiled. I smacked in the stomach with my folder and said bye and confidently walked away.
I didn't want this but he doesn't want me. He has the telling him she will leave her H when he has divorced me so he has that to look forward to.
I hope the next 90 days don't hurt as much as the last 6 months.
ME-BW:32__HIM-xWH:31__DS:5
TOGETHER-10 MARRIED-5
D-DAY: 3/26/2010
I FILED D 9/17/2010
D FINAL 2/3/2011
"Is there a cure for a broken heart? Only time can heal your broken heart, just as time can heal his broken arms and legs"-Miss Piggy
afraidshesgone ( member #28625) posted at 7:59 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
((( BillieJean))))
Good for you, sounds like you handled it like a champ... very strong and
"I have to say- I looked fabulous"... OUTSTANDING 
Me, BW, old enough
D-Day dates.. tired of 'em Let's just say it happened, I'm over it and have moved on.....very happy
Despite my screen name, I am very much a woman and hell yeah I wish I could change that name to gladshesgone
BillieJean (original poster member #28635) posted at 8:02 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Thanks ASG
I handled it wellwhile I was there with him but now I'm in my car crying...
I was so easy to let go of...
ME-BW:32__HIM-xWH:31__DS:5
TOGETHER-10 MARRIED-5
D-DAY: 3/26/2010
I FILED D 9/17/2010
D FINAL 2/3/2011
"Is there a cure for a broken heart? Only time can heal your broken heart, just as time can heal his broken arms and legs"-Miss Piggy
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 8:16 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
afraidshesgone ( member #28625) posted at 8:24 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
You have every right to be crying in your car
((((BillieJean))))) I know I would be. I don't think for a minute he believes you were easy to let go. You are such a sweet, dear woman who deserves more then you were getting recently. Go ahead and cry all you need to. I'll be on the train getting your boa ready and plenty of Sqeezs are waiting as well.
I can't imagine the hurt you feel, but ultimately, when the sadness clears you'll recognize how strong you are and how far you've come.
Me, BW, old enough
D-Day dates.. tired of 'em Let's just say it happened, I'm over it and have moved on.....very happy
Despite my screen name, I am very much a woman and hell yeah I wish I could change that name to gladshesgone
punky ( member #12233) posted at 8:25 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
You know what? You did great. You held it together and were strong in front of him. Cry all you need to now. Just let it out.
Big hugs.
13 years later...finally healed. Definitely survived and thrived and you can, too.
sharonons ( member #24462) posted at 8:28 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
I will be with you soon hun. hugs to you.
Dawnie ( member #26912) posted at 8:37 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Conratulations! You win in the end and he is stuck with a tramp.
You are lucky that you were able to divorce so fast.. in my state you cant even file for divorce until you are seperated for 1 year. So I am stuck waiting for my year to end so I can get rid of the piece of shit that I am so done with.
Thumbs up to you !
DIVORCED! Remarried to a real man!
BW (me) - 41 (now 48)
WH (him) - 43 (now 50)
OW - 23 yr old foreign gold digging whore looking for her American meal ticket
1 14 yr old son (now 21)
married 20 years/together 25 years
D day - 9/23/2009 5pm
BillieJean (original poster member #28635) posted at 8:46 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Thanks everyone. I love you all. I couldn't have gotten thru this hell without you.
ASG- I'm on my way to catch the train... My boas green,too
ME-BW:32__HIM-xWH:31__DS:5
TOGETHER-10 MARRIED-5
D-DAY: 3/26/2010
I FILED D 9/17/2010
D FINAL 2/3/2011
"Is there a cure for a broken heart? Only time can heal your broken heart, just as time can heal his broken arms and legs"-Miss Piggy
MixedUpMess ( member #15256) posted at 8:48 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
More (((( HUGS )))). Good for you for looking fabulous!
D-Day: 5-28-2007
Married: 26 years
Me (BS): 48 (Cancer survivor!)
Him (WS)(Alcoholic): 48
DD: 17
False R for 1.5 yrs+
He moved out 5/10. In limbo.
I was sad because I had no shoes. Then I met a man who had no feet.
notgonnabreak ( member #26699) posted at 8:49 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
You weren't so easy to let go of.
He so easily let go of his morals, beliefs, scruples, integrity, honesty, and humanity.
Honey, he couldn't keep you. You were too good for him.
He knows where he belongs, with all the other trash. He set you free.
tulipcitymadman ( member #28660) posted at 8:57 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
I only hope I can carry myself with half the dignity and class that you showed. Amazing strength, well played. The smack to the stomach is priceless!
OnceInALifetime ( member #26023) posted at 9:04 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Congratulations on doing so well.
Crying in the car? I'd worry for you if you didn't. Shows you have a heart.
BillieJean (original poster member #28635) posted at 9:08 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Thanks everyone. I have lost a little over 70 pounds since D Day and I still wear the same clothes because I don't really have the money for a new wardrobe so everytime he has seen me I have been in huge clothes. Well I decided to dress up soi went out and bought a new outfit.it was the first time he had seen me in clothes that fit so well lol.
Tulip- the funny thing about the smack to the stomach is when I turned to face him and he stepped forward- like for a hug! Not gonna happen-- he's got whore cooties!
ME-BW:32__HIM-xWH:31__DS:5
TOGETHER-10 MARRIED-5
D-DAY: 3/26/2010
I FILED D 9/17/2010
D FINAL 2/3/2011
"Is there a cure for a broken heart? Only time can heal your broken heart, just as time can heal his broken arms and legs"-Miss Piggy
JenniMay ( member #24595) posted at 9:11 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Well done!
(((BillieJean)))
emeraldisle ( member #20480) posted at 9:26 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Congratulations to you as you start your new journey. I wish you all the love and luck in the world.
Me: BW, married 14yrs
D-Day 04/2008; 07/2008; 10/2008; 03/2010 & 08/2010
DIVORCED, and moving forward
bigpicture3236 ( member #27861) posted at 11:18 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
I am so proud of you; of course you looked damn good!
Way to Go!!!
If you love something and hurt it dearly, then chose not to fix it...you never deserved it in the first place.
WheredoIgonow ( member #27130) posted at 12:49 AM on Wednesday, September 8th, 2010
Wow. You're an inspiration.
Way to take care of yourself and your son.
You deserve better. You're young and you WILL find someone even more special - and will treat you like you do.
Take care of yourelf.
Me; BS (64)
Him: WS (66)
Married 39 years
DD-37, DS-36, DS-27, DS-25
OW#1 - PA - 2 1/2 years.
OW#2 - EA/PA - 7 months - then he got caught.
hoya96 ( member #28851) posted at 1:11 AM on Wednesday, September 8th, 2010
I am so proud of you. I can only hope to be that confident and together when I (probably) cross that bridge. I have lost 35 pounds since D Day and also don't have the money for new clothes...but you better believe I will buy a new outfit for that. 
Me: 43 and fabulous!
3 children ages 13, 15 and 17
Ex said he wanted separation 2/14/10
DDay #1: 5/23/10 18 month affair with his 22 yr old paralegal
DDay #2 9/22/10 my best friend, now his wife
Divorced: 12/10/10
Re-married a wonderful man.
BillieJean (original poster member #28635) posted at 2:00 AM on Wednesday, September 8th, 2010
Thanks again everyone ((hugs))
When we were sitting in the attorneys office, I asked WH if he had anything to say. A few minutes later he said "I promise to always take care of DS and put him first" I said "I'm glad"
When I got home I sent WH a text asking him if he was going to get DS from daycare today. He hadn't seen him in 4 days. He responded "no not today"
So I guess what he really meant to say was " I promise to always put DS first... starting tomorrow, cuz it's a good day for golf"
ME-BW:32__HIM-xWH:31__DS:5
TOGETHER-10 MARRIED-5
D-DAY: 3/26/2010
I FILED D 9/17/2010
D FINAL 2/3/2011
"Is there a cure for a broken heart? Only time can heal your broken heart, just as time can heal his broken arms and legs"-Miss Piggy
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