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I hope it's o.k. to pull a quote from another thread but within the same forum...Cat stated

If I look back at all the other men I was ga-ga about, they were much LESS into me than I was into them

in reference to getting the book "He's Just Not That Into You" and it made me think about this whole new dating thing. I still am VERY new at it myself having only dated 4 men since my separation from xWH, #1 was long distance so we only went out once, #2 was the FWB whom I dated a few times before it became just FWB, #3 was the horndog whom I went out to dinner with twice, and #4 was the one who just gave me the heave-ho after first dating me, then going back to wife whom he was initally divorcing, then seeing me and making plans to hang out, etc..

Does that mean i'm going to go through tons of them too? More of this 'hey, let's get together and meet' and then wait to see where it goes? I wanted to meet one and then it be over and done with...oh man, am I in for a rude awakening!! I have a lot of skin which needs thickening first...ugh

i hear ya!

i've dated a lot since i moved out. my D will be final sometime shortly after hell freezes over so i'm not waiting for that.

i fell for one guy hard. he was into me at first but then i made a mess of it. too soon. i was all paranoid and clingy.

then there was probably 6 -8 guys that were in the 1-4 dates categories. wasn't that into any of them nor were they that into me. one was truly the worst date of my life.

there was "new guy" that i dated for 4-5 months before he started to show me parts of him that i was not OK with. too much like my X.

dated dr. shark a bit when push comes to shove, he's allergic to horses and that wasn't going anywhere.

the current man in my life. well he's about 12 -15 in the number of guys i've been on at least 1 date with in the last 1.5 years. and let me tell you its wonderful, so far very worth it, and totally unexpected.

dating sux!

I'm afraid it's likely. I've had those exact same thoughts - somehow it feels undignified to have all these new dates when you're in your 40s.

I think I've been out with close to 30 women in the last two years (my phone list - most entries being grayed out - has about 40 women on it that weren't there two years ago). Many just one time. Many were instant friends the minute I met them. Only one I saw myself with long-term and there are serious lifestyle differences there. I'm taking some time off now to process all of this (and hoping our differences will magically disappear, because she is a wonderful woman).

But I keep hoping that I'll meet one and it's over and done with. Like with the ex. Or maybe that's not such a great thing.

It's just a process. I think it's harder to find compatibility when you're older and more set in your ways. When you're in your 20s, attraction alone can be enough to get you going for a couple of months. That doesn't work any more.

Sorry to be a downer. It is harder when you're older and you understand the price of making a bad decision.

I wanted to meet one and then it be over and done with..

Oh that is goooood.

I would love to meet someone I'm totally into who doesn't eventually show me all sides of crazy after awhile.

I overlooked many things when I was younger, too many things I thought you just "deal with." Unacceptable things. And now I know better, and that's why it's more difficult.

LOVELY...I'm certain there's a "Dating for Dummies" handbook out there somewhere...lol