...though he it seems he's trying to.
I am all business with STBX. I only talk with him about my son and child support. He takes my son for an overnight visit two days a week, and I call every now and again (maybe twice a day) to check on my son.
I can tell this man doesn't like me limiting my talks with him, because it seems like he's trying to do everything to draw me out of the NC box.
1. Criticizing the way I do things for little one. I cut his fingernails too late. I don't wash out his bottle enough. I don't feed him enough. Never mind DS is a 30+lb behemoth.
2. Using the son to talk to me...sort of. My DS loves to talk on the phone, and I only really have him talk to his Dad if he asks me to when I'm on the phone with him about something else (i figure if he really wanted to talk to my son, he'd call to chat with him). He seems annoyed when I call to check on my baby, but then, usually in a window of five to ten minutes, he'll have my son call me back to talk to me. The kicker. He doesn't give the phone to my baby, who is capable of holding a phone and doesn't throw it...as much anymore. He's holding the phone the whole time! And a lot of times, I'm talking, and my son his halfway across the room.
I didn't realize speakerphones on cellphones were that awesome.
3. Calling me to ask if I had any extra nipples for my son's bottle. He could have easily bought some, but no, he asked me. I should have told him to go buy some, but I had some I've yet to use, so I walked over to where he was because it seemed like he was two blocks away. He hadn't even left my block. And of course, he nitpicked at me a bit to keep me around longer.
The dreams are kicking it up a notch now, and I feel like he's trying to get me to pay attention to him, and he might even try to do something else (like bring his girlfriend around my house again!) to get me to react. I want to kill this man. I want to save my sanity, so I won't say anything to him, but I want to screech out LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE because I so don't have time for this mess.
Help me ladies. Help me to regain my calm and help me to keep NC. I really don't need the drama.