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 mentallyabused (original poster member #33439) posted at 7:52 PM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2011

I am looking for books that concentrate on BS healing, or help BS in a limbo or help with dealing multiple affairs.

Anyone have any recommendations?

WH - 30s
BS (me) 30s
DDay#1 - Nov 2009 EA
DDay#2 - Sept 2011 same OW (EA, denies PA but booked a hotel room for God knows what!)
Status - I will leave this marriage when the need to not stand this unhappy relationship exceeds the need to see my c

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 mentallyabused (original poster member #33439) posted at 9:32 PM on Tuesday, October 4th, 2011

Anyone?!

WH - 30s
BS (me) 30s
DDay#1 - Nov 2009 EA
DDay#2 - Sept 2011 same OW (EA, denies PA but booked a hotel room for God knows what!)
Status - I will leave this marriage when the need to not stand this unhappy relationship exceeds the need to see my c

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Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 11:19 PM on Tuesday, November 1st, 2011

After d-day every book on infidelity had something to offer! Reading was the only way to calm my mind.

Some that I can remember...

Surviving Infidelity

Transcending Post-infidelity Stress Disorder

My Husband's Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me- this one is helpful if you have no doubts about the kind of man he was pre affair, and have great faith in things working out.

How Can I Forgive You- is ok, not solely focused on infidelity, but it does seem to encourage working through it together as the best option, no matter the outcome.

The Four Agreements - not really infidelity focused

Also read a couple books on Narcissistic Personality Disorder

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

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Fighting2Survive ( member #28410) posted at 1:44 AM on Wednesday, November 2nd, 2011

Some of these books concentrate on infidelity and some were just helpful to me as I healed.

Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust & Restoring Your Sanity After Infidelity

by Shirley P. Glass, PhD

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend

How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To

by Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD

The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships

by Harriet Lerner, PhD

Codependent No More

by Melodie Beattie

Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices that Make or Break Loving Relationships

by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change

by Robin Norwood

When Your Lover is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception & Betrayal

by Susan Forward, PhD

[This message edited by Fighting2Survive at 7:46 PM, November 1st (Tuesday)]

Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces

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