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The Book Club :
Men are from Mars...

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 hummingbird8 (original poster member #25086) posted at 3:55 AM on Thursday, March 15th, 2012

Women are from Venus.

Has anyone read this book? Is it worth the purchase?

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InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 6:44 AM on Sunday, March 18th, 2012

Sure. It's a good basic book that's easy to read on how men and women communicate and think and respond to things differently. I found it helpful and food for thought.

If you want more science I have heard The Female Brain and the author's second book, The Male Brain are excellent.

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traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 11:17 AM on Sunday, March 18th, 2012

Ages ago...I don't remember much about it which in my bookworm world is code for ok but not impressive

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Melody3 ( member #33591) posted at 6:13 PM on Friday, April 6th, 2012

Great book. I love John Gray.

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Melody3 ( member #33591) posted at 6:15 PM on Friday, April 6th, 2012

It's a good basic book that's easy to read on how men and women communicate and think and respond to things differently

Just the basics. It's quite informative.

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 6:49 AM on Thursday, April 12th, 2012

I thought it was awesome. I even bought a set of videos by John Gray since WH wasn't a reader. I wanted to watch them together so we could have a good foundation for our new marriage.

Turns out he wasn't much of a non-porn video watcher. I should have realized then that his refusal to watch the videos or even discuss any concept was a red flag that our marriage was doomed.

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rumorhasit ( member #38943) posted at 7:32 AM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013

Bumping an old thread, sorry...

I read this book back in September after Dday#1.

Am I the only one who found it shallow and not very helpful? I don't feel like I got anything out of it that I couldnt have gotten from a cosmo article.

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authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 11:51 AM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013

I found it to be extremely helpful. It made me look at things differently and to understand male/female communication better.

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rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 6:04 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013

I just read it this weekend... found it at an old bookstore...

loved this: Vesuvians (women) all study psychology and have at least a Master's degree in Counseling.

I shared this with my husband - about how women talk about things they would with their therapist and he was shocked.

If you are a couple where the gender roles are traditional I think this would help you a lot.

Last week I was quietly crying as my husband and I talked. He referred to it as me "going ballistic." Men interpret any criticism shamefully, according to the book.

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StillGoing ( member #28571) posted at 8:25 PM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013

Well, I'm from Jersey.

eta:

There is a book called The Myth of Mars and Venus that explains why this is damaging for relationships and how playing to the stereotype can just reinforce them as "correct" so if you actually want better communication with your husband, this might not be the way to go.

[This message edited by StillGoing at 2:39 PM, May 3rd (Friday)]

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Melody3 ( member #33591) posted at 5:07 AM on Saturday, September 21st, 2013

I think this book is very informative and one on my bookshelf. Always.

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