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GreenEyeGirl (original poster member #36667) posted at 6:25 PM on Friday, August 31st, 2012
Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson? Waste of time or worth it?
BW=45; WH=46 We have 2 kids DD/DS.
DDay 6-13-12 Married 23 years
He cheated on our marriage during year 14. Eight yrs after the A began is when I found out.
Going to try to reconcile, my heart is BROKEN
traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 6:01 PM on Wednesday, September 12th, 2012
It depends what kind of reader you're. If you're a type A personality, this might not be the book for you.
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
trumanshow ( member #25624) posted at 10:19 PM on Wednesday, September 12th, 2012
Actually, I bought the book. Our MC (who was excellent) trained under her in California
Unfortunately, before I could make use of it I found out we were in false R
remarried 11-15-15
Her prize is a man who ran out on his wife and children. His is a woman who is too stupid to understand that she is not special, she is simply there.
Skye ( member #325) posted at 2:29 PM on Thursday, September 13th, 2012
I thought it an excellent book for a marriage that was broken. My marriage was fine. My husband was broken. It was not for us, but I could see where it was very good for partners who couldn't communicate.
GreenEyeGirl (original poster member #36667) posted at 10:30 PM on Monday, September 24th, 2012
I bought it at the request of the marriage counselor. I read it, but I just think it didn't really apply to us. It is more for people that seem to have underlying issues that were brought to the marriage that enabled an affair....maybe I'm just not internalizing it correctly???
BW=45; WH=46 We have 2 kids DD/DS.
DDay 6-13-12 Married 23 years
He cheated on our marriage during year 14. Eight yrs after the A began is when I found out.
Going to try to reconcile, my heart is BROKEN
NoTriangles ( member #35985) posted at 11:49 PM on Friday, September 28th, 2012
I personally really liked this book. I found the attachment theory exploration very interesting and relevant.
However, it definitely has the most value for a couple working together on R. I read it last summer during what turned out to be False R. I am more educated and informed but he never so much as read one sentence of anything to heal us.
If you are not in R, then the case studies (spouses 'finally getting it' (and not necessarily all infidelity-related)) might just make you bummed, but I think the overall tenets of the psychology of relationships have a lot of merit.
Me: Finding my SunlightHim: Traitor in my FoxholeLet go or get dragged.
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