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( I've mentioned this in another thread over in the Wayward Side: http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=474108

and my BW talks about in this thread: http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=474111 )

Anyone had any success with using hypnosis to help with affair details recall? Somewhat repeating myself from the other thread(s), here's what's going on:

2.5 months out from DDay, I am desperate to make sure my BW has the whole truth, but NOW I CAN'T REMEMBER THINGS. Mostly, the topic of the texts and phone calls I had with the OW. I can remember ones that are tied to significant events or other things (e.g. when I was out of town on business, etc), but my BW wants to know--and I completely understand--WHAT I talked with the OW about through the day-to-day.

I don't know if I've blocked it or what, but I seriously cannot remember. And we have the records of the times of all the texts (and phone calls) for the last 3.5 months of the affair, so she wants to know--again, rightly so--what picture did I text to the OW at 6 AM one morning?

I'm not blocking these out because we were sexting. They're not pictures of my dick. But I CAN'T REMEMBER and my marriage is going to end because of it. In other ways it seems like we have a chance at R, but right now this is going to be a deal-breaker. We have a pretty good couples counselor, she has a good IC, I just started with a new IC who seems great, but this marriage is going to crash and burn if I can't get to these memories.

So... we've been wondering if hypnosis would help. Anyone tried? Good results? Bad?

I ran it by our marriage counselor via email and she responded pretty curtly: "This seems a little extreme to me. I don't recommend it." Still waiting to hear back from my IC.

Awesome. Just got an email reply from my IC (11:30 pm on a Sat night!). I'm feeling really good about this guy:

"I'm thinking about how to help you remember short of going elsewhere... I do hypnosis, have for many years ... but I also think that helping you get into a deeply calm state might have similar results and I have several ways to help you get there. Lets discuss next time before you take on any more therapy."

Has anything further happened with your counselor?

My h has a notoriously bad memory and has offered to do hypnosis (who knows how seriously) to remember things. Im wondering if you and your wife and counselor have found a solution.

Please let us know how this goes!!!

My WH "can't remember" if he has had other ONSs/affairs/etc other than the ones I found out about on my own. Says he's tried to remember, but can't. I suggested hypnosis and he was COMPLETELY against it.

I applaud you for being willing to do it, for loving your wife enough to make yourself that vulnerable. Bravo

Wellll... so far not really much has come of it. What my IC apparently was referring to is HRV (heart-rate variability) relaxation techniques (using the emwave device), which was helped somewhat in terms of my anxiety levels (which were going through the roof) but hasn't so far helped significantly with recall. A little bit, but not much. I'm seeing him again tomorrow so will ask if there's more to what he was saying.