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This is the hardest for me.if it had just been a PA I could get over it but She thinks its LOve and the thought sickens me still its been almost a month since D Day.I guess I could be worse.She will move out in two weeks maybe it will get easier and I can really begin to heal.

Trust me; PA is no easier to get over. My wife was in an EA/PA with her AP, and some days one aspect makes me more sick than the other. On one day, it'll be the fact that she thought she was in luurrrrvv with POSOM...other days that aspect won't cross my mind and/or bug me and all I can think of is the PA. Same shit, different sandwich. Sounds like you're on your way out though.

I'm really sorry you've had to join the club no one wants to be a part of...

I can't figure out how so many people do this kind of shit. It seems like the only thing that matters to people these days is, "what can I get out of it, and what ever they think makes them feels good", is OK. It doesn't matter that they are screwing up so many lives, in the mean time.

I've said it before, but I think I'm kind of glad that I don't understand it. Because I think I would ratter put a gun to my head, then think that, whatever I what I should get, no matter what the cost!

Let her fantasy begain, I'm sure the karma bus will visit in the near future.

My opinion is for you to do some reading. "Not Just Friends" helps to explain the feelings associated with the A. It will help you see that you are not in a unique situation and that your WS may have felt like they were "In Love" but it is often a false feeling associated with the A.

I agree, it is like a knife to the heart. My WS and I have been together since we were teenagers and to think that she felt anything like that for another man makes me want to scream, cry, rant, rave, etc.

It will take some time and help for you to begin to deal with those feelings, but it will get better. You are strong and can get yourself through this if you seek positive, encouraging help.

I don't know how I'll ever get over that thought. I've read emails between them that are just to graphic to comprehend. How the hell am I going to get past that? Never thought it would happen to me! I was so wrong. It really sucks!!!

I would like to reiterate what has already been said. It is just "my" feelings but I often think about the fact that they had EA intimacy and it makes me want to smash my fist through both her and OM. Then the PA parts rips me up just the same knowing that something that I had held as so sacred and exclusive in our relationship was being given to someone else. When someone has a hole in their own soul and heart they can't be understood.

Hers was actually EA progressing to PA I just cant believe she wont end affair and thinks shes m,adly in love with this doucebag I looked in her notebook the other day and saw where shes buying curtains for his house.I thought OMG shes nesting with this POS.What makes it worse tonight is DS11's karate class OM is instructor. I originally said no more but talked to my mother and she said he doesnt know why make him quit and punish him.but I think if/when he finds out he wont want shit to do with OM.

Im hoping anyway.were telling kids about D next fri.Im not sure I might tell of A after D first week in april.

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...and she said he doesnt know why make him quit and punish him.but I think if/when he finds out he wont want shit to do with OM.

Well, first off, I wouldn't tell your DS11. However, I feel like I WOULD pull him out of the Karate class for the simple reason that you now know that the person teaching it is a terrible role model in charge of impressionable children, if nothing else.

We're all different, but in my world, NO WAY would my DS be attending karate w/OM as instructor.

THIS^ Not a chance would I be okay with that.

(((Distraut))) Maybe I shouldn't say this, but after almost 3 years there are still days that I think that him moving out would have been the kindest thing to do for me.

She is moving out in two weeks I'm so ready but I have to play nice til then she was just figuring the bills and whining cause she's not going to have any money I thought tough shit but I smiled and said it will be ok . Ok until after the beginning of April and I'm rid of your sorry ass .

But until then ill be nice and bite my lip . As for the boy after the D is final I may expose her and OM and see if he still wants to do karate.its messed up because she hinted to this before the A became physical I told her that would be the most f Ed up thing she could do to us all then a month later she did it a month later I caught her she won't end affair I'm getting my kids and keeping house he's getting a depressed basket case with a spending problem good riddance sorry thing is she's my kids mother and I want her back

Just a passing thought....many dojos do not tolerate this type of behavior from either an instructor or a student. The instructors are supposed to be role models for the entire dojo.

If the instructor is not the owner, I'd out him to the Master and let the Master handle it.

Jus2 keep moving forward amigo.

Keeping focused on being the world's greatest, will help replace the thoughts on how f#cked up your WW is.

DO NOT TELL DS! I can't express this OPINION enough. Don't us him as any sort of tool. As far as he is concerned mom still walks on air (and she does...to him...no matter what you tell him). This will backfire big time. Now, the good news is that she will shoot herself in the foot when DS figures this out...and he will. Kids are NOT stupid. But take the high road with DS and he will gravitate towards you as you will be the only sane one in his life.

Now about exposure...I am a big fan of blowing the lid off this one! I waffle back and forth on wether it is a good idea if you plan to divorce. If there is any chance young want her back, then I say it's your only hope. Peer pressure is a b!tch and when the town paints that big Scarlett A over the both of them, that shiny new surface won't seem so great. Love doesn't hide. Love doesn't sneak around. Love stands up and screams "I LOVE THIS PERSON AND WANT EVERYONE IN THE WORLD TO KNOW!" So you are just helping them out, right?

Unfortunately he is the owner a twice divrced POS homewrecker.Im just hoping and praying that once she moves in with him the fog will lift.I just hopew when DS11 and DD 13 find out they dont resent me for not telling them about A and who its with.

Dis...

The success rate of relationships born from infidelity is 3%...

I know that in WW and OM's case...they now distrust each other so much...OM freaks out if she leaves for twenty minutes...she cant trust him to go to the store...

they have already cheated on each other...OM with his ex...WW with ME....buwhahahaha!!!!

Gives me the warm fuzzies...

Paladin

Thats good to hear my WW has cheated with me too I dont know if its healthy for me but until she moves out If I can get it why not.Although she is now acting like sex with me is wrong.But up until last night it has been that good hysterical bonding.She text me one day asking if I wanted sex I saved the text.Anyway I have been detaching from her for awhile now so Ill be ok with her miving in 2 weeks.I cant wait for her to come out of the fog I know it may takr some time for her to realize what she lost but i believe she will at some point and I dont know for sure if Ill want her back by then Ill just have to see.

Of course she's in "LOVE".

It's fantisy land now. Wait 'til the reality sets in.