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ajsmom (original poster member #17460) posted at 4:11 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed right now and I'm hoping it's Fullmoonitis coming up this week.
TONS of anxiety about things going on with me. Some good, some bad. Trying to be patient (always tough) and proactive at the same time. I'd rather juggle knives.
I just need a few things to go right for me for once.
Doing the "breathe in, breathe out" stuff. It's not working so well.
Cover me peeps. I really don't want to go back to my friend, Xanax.
TIA,
AJ's MOM
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 4:16 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
((((ajsmom))))
~~~~sending you peace~~~~
Failure is success if we learn from it.
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 4:16 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
(((ajsmom)))
We are here for you hun. Keeping you in my prayers.
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
Survivor3512 ( member #37946) posted at 4:19 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
(((Ajsmom))) hang in there! You know this stuff is cyclical. You'll be through this wave soon and feeling good again. I'll be sending you PV's!
Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie
inhishands55 ( member #9454) posted at 4:20 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
I know how you feel...I have had some extra anxiety myself..Up coming shoulder surgery next wk and a few thousand other things..My doctor suggested taking an extra 1/2 pill of lorazapam. Only 1 mg..I'm like you I don't want to ever go back on Xanax or Zoloft again..
I just hope you and I can get through all this without going back to one of those harder drugs...
Hang in there girlie..Things will get better....((((ajsmom)))))))
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 4:31 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
stillstrong ( member #36144) posted at 4:48 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
I love Xanax. Can't you just take one to calm yourself down a bit? I don't take it regularly, just when I'm feeling like you are now. Usually one pill takes the edge off and once I calm down, I can talk myself into staying calmer.
Just a thought.
(((ajsmom)))
Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 5:40 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
Covering you... downright smothering you!
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
Must Survive ( member #34533) posted at 6:06 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
AJsmom,
(((hugs))). Maybe a fast walk around the block? And I have been known to cut 1 of those xanax in half.
Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorced-Let my new beginning start
They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 6:06 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
There are natural alternatives to Xanax that may be just enough to take the edge off for you:
Herbal tinctures - 1/2 to 1 dropper full in a small amount of water, swig it down fast they don't taste good:
Hops
Valerian
Passion Flower
Skullcap
Nutrition:
GABA - 300-750mg
Magnesium Glycinate: 300-500mg
Cut back on caffeine too.
This is what I do when I am anxious and it really makes a difference. Save the meds for extreme cases to avoid the rebound effects and side effects.
A small percentage of the population has an opposite response to Valerian, it's a sedative and muscle relaxant for most people.
You may only need one of these suggestions, I don't mean that you have to all of them.
Good luck!
[This message edited by InnerLight at 12:07 PM, April 9th (Tuesday)]
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 6:18 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
((((((Ajsmom)))))
Sending prayers... and more hugs,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 6:24 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
(((((ajsmom)))) we got ya covered, Sister!
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
ajsmom (original poster member #17460) posted at 6:44 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
Thank you all so much.
I'm feeling a bit better. I've been caffeine free since 2002 (arrhythmia issues) so it's been some lovely decaf Lemon Zinger for me today. Trust me there are days that I wish I could have caffeine.
On the occasion that I do take it, I usually do cut it in half. I'm just trying really hard to get through these times with my own (and that of friends) resolve.
Thanks again for all the support. It is truly appreciated and much needed right now.
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
redvixen ( member #15259) posted at 7:28 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
((((((((((AJsMom)))))))))))))
Me, BS Him WS early 40's at the start, cheated before and after cancer diagnosis.
Two A's, two OW's, online looking for sex partners, two false R's.
Threw him out in January 2009.
Divorce final March 30th, 2010
XWH died Dec. 2010
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 8:12 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013
Hang in there. I keep the Ativan handy for those once-in-a-blue moon episodes.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 1:41 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Come on! Let's go dancing!!
(Glad you're feeling better; I certainly know that feeling...)
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 1:46 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
(((big hugs!!)))
I had a weird dream that I know is anxiety related. Maybe something is in the air?
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 2:04 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
(((AJ))
you've got all the positive vibes I've got.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
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