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Jack317 (original poster new member #39010) posted at 2:35 AM on Wednesday, April 17th, 2013
Ok. So here goes. New here, so I prob won't use the abbreviations you're all accustomed to. I've been married for 6 years. In that time, I've had a couple of "emotional" affairs. Which my spouse has discovered. They were all online. There were times when I tried to set up meetings, but the plans always fell through. My wife discovered all of these. I would also post on single's sites in order to try and 'hook up" with other women. My spouse founs all the emails. She has fogiven me, but not forgotten.
Recently, I reconnected with a woman who I've known for at the very least 15 years or so. This past week, I went home to visit my mom and dad. I got bored, and called her up, and invited her to come over. She did, and we had sex. Also. For the past few weeks, we have been texting and talking on the phone. Leaving my wife and eventually marrying her did come up on more than one occasion. My spouse found out about this affair I had this past Saturday. I packed a small bag, and ran out of the house. I dunno. I guess I thought I was going to hike to 250 miles to see this other woman. It was around 10 at night, and I was walking on dark highway, when the need to talk to my spouse overtook me. So I called her collect as she had turned off my cell. I felt, and still feel like a piece of scum. I want to try and make things work. I have agreed to certain terms. Such as putting a phone tracker, and a key logger on my phone. I only hope that in time we can resolve things!
BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 2:49 AM on Wednesday, April 17th, 2013
Well...you aren't from TX because you didn't type out y'all... 
Just a bit of advice, you should agree to all terms, but that they aren't term, they are what you need to do to save your M, if you BW is willing.
This is a great site. Huge support for WS's that is hard to find elsewhere, but a lot of the onus is going to be on you to do the work and follow through.
Read through the Healing Library, if you haven' already.
welcome to a place of healing. 
knightsbff ( member #36853) posted at 4:41 PM on Wednesday, April 17th, 2013
Hi and welcome,
Is your BW on this site as well?
I would recommend you read in Just Found Out to try to understand what you have done to her.
Are you NC (no contact) with your AP (affair partner)? You may want to send a NC letter which has been approved by your BW. Being NC will help clear your head.
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Jack317 (original poster new member #39010) posted at 4:46 PM on Wednesday, April 17th, 2013
My Bus is a member on here, and I have written a NC letter. I have cut off all communication with AP. Going to read the just found out section.
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