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bluecali (original poster member #35135) posted at 7:56 PM on Thursday, April 18th, 2013
(Brief timetable review:
DDAY 12/2011. Hellish existence with blame-shifting spouse, crappy MC, ridin' the coaster until June, 2012 when she moved out. 180(ish) until early this year. We've been talking, slowly re-connecting these last few months.)
FWW is moving back home. I'm confident that her A was a one-off. She has dug into her "why," and recognizes it for the crap that it always was. She is seriously remorseful. The things that used to be triggers just don't have much power over me anymore. They catch my attention sometimes, but it's fleeting. I just don't have much need to process the A anymore. My focus is on the present, and shaping the future.
We both learned a lot from this experience. Seems like it's going to be a very different M. More baggage, but more wisdom.
I'm going to check out of this community for a while. I can't begin to express how much SI has done for me. Thank you all. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Best of luck to each and every one of you.
Me-BH
DDAY 12/1/11
Separated and uncertain
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 7:58 PM on Thursday, April 18th, 2013
Good luck! We're pulling for you.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
0115 ( member #31740) posted at 5:32 AM on Friday, April 19th, 2013
Good luck! It sounds like your on your way to a brighter future!!
BS (me) 49
FWH 49 newbeg2011
Married 29 years
Very Long LTA
DD 01/15/11-6/30/11
The hard work is done...let the healing begin.
Hurt2Deeply ( member #38317) posted at 6:49 AM on Friday, April 19th, 2013
It's great to hear you are R with your wife. I know that takes a lot of work and forgiveness.
Congratulations. i wish you many blessings!
Me BS 57
Him FWH 60
M 35 years
3 Adult kids
R
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:44 PM on Friday, April 19th, 2013
Congratulations and best wishes to you and your W. I wish you both the best.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
cletuswv ( member #37463) posted at 6:34 PM on Friday, April 19th, 2013
Good luck, hope I get to check out some day...always remember "Montani Semper Liberi"
Me: BH 40
Her: WW 35
DDay #1: 9/28/2012
TT until:
DDay #2: 1/03/2013
2.5 yr LTA EA/PA
Dday #3 6/19/2013 OM #2
DD 4
DS 7
She moved out on 7/2/2013
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