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I got the message in FB that I had "too many failed attempts" to login to my FB account, though I hadn't made any failed attempts, so I was temporarily blocked (got in when I tried logging in again, though). I don't know anyone who would want to bother to hack my account except for STBX and OW. He's blocked from seeing me, though I certainly don't post anything about him or our situation, and my postings are all very G-rated and vanilla.

I shouldn't bother asking him if he was trying to get in, right? There's absolutely no point, and he'd probably lie if I did ask, right?

I know... right. Ugh. I feel violated. I wish there were a way I could find out who did it.

Nope, no point.

Guess he was bored today. Maybe needed to stir up some drama with OW to get that 'it's us agains the world' feeling again.

I set mine up to log me out of everything, and it requires sending a code to my phone to login on a new device. It also sends me an email as soon as I try to login on any electronic not already recognized.

Too creepy. You're right that you shouldn't break NC for this, as he would lie anyway, but it's still creepy..

Hugs to you.

Thanks for the suggestion, Butterfly. I'm going to see if I can set that up.

ugh. I get this all the time. All. The. Time. Sometimes it is every day for a week or so and then drops off and then picks back up again. And I am five years out. I won't say too much here because I have no privacy here, either, I suspect. I will say though that I have no reason to worry about him successfully getting into it.

(((trying)))

Maybe needed to stir up some drama with OW to get that 'it's us against the world' feeling again.

^^^THIS^^^

I get this every time. I haven't been hacked into or attempted, still it seems that at least once a month there is a message, comment, letter, etc. form them through other family attempting to get me to engage. It is very apparent that they struggle to survive and thrive without the big, bad, ex-wife.

Oops, DP

[This message edited by IrishLass518 at 8:46 AM, April 22nd (Monday)]

You see, this is what I just don't get. He didn't want me anymore. I let him go just like he wanted. He's moving on into his sparkly, new life without me. So leave me alone! "Us against the world..." Yeah, I WANT to get divorced; I just also want health insurance for the few months before my own kicks in!

That's just weird. I haven't made any attempts to see what he or the OW are up to, and I'm the one who has been lied to, had to find out that the OW was introduced/set up as stepmommy by the kids, and then got served several months ahead of time so he could remarry. You'd think that I'd be the one trying to hack into everything of theirs to gain some intel on what their plans are, but sorry... not ever, and no thanks!

Jessica, I can't believe that you're five years out, and this stuff is still happening to you. Unbelievable. I always thought that when people got divorced, they did everything they could to avoid each other. I'm wondering if that will actually be the case.

it could be someone else in Timbuktu (for example) is trying to hack your FB account- just throwing that out there. my account has been hacked and it was someone in another country. change your password as a precaution. sorry for the incovenience.

you can also look in Security Settings for active sessions and be sure all the sessions are recognizable.

Excellent point, pmal. I thought about that-- I know that friends have had their FB accounts hacked by scammers, so that's certainly a possibility. That would have been the first thing I thought of if my life hadn't steered off in this direction.

Mine is definitely not strangers. I know for sure but I won't go into it as he almost certainly is in Secret Squirrel mode. And Trying, it is annoying and probably won't stop. He can't be blatant about it because he is still putting on a show for wifey 2, so he does this instead. He thinks he is undetectable, it is so absurd. I guess that is what you are reduced to when you run away from consequences and never fix anything you did, only to find that the people you betrayed and left behind healed and moved on without you. At least he is in another country now and can't drive by my house (on a cul-de-sac) to "bring in the trash cans from the curb."

[This message edited by JessicaFL127 at 7:13 PM, April 22nd (Monday)]

This happened to me today. It is not my regular account but the one I keep tabs on OW. No one knows about it, I think it is a glitch on facebook's end.

I just got that message 3 min ago. It was my first attempt at signing in. I immediately typed in the right password, and it let me in. It might not have been them at all.

Thank you for posting about the glitch-- I will stay vigilant, but I feel much more relaxed knowing that there is another very valid explanation for it.

((trying))

Hope it was that glitch after-all.

Just keep NC (as best you can with the kids). He'll gro bored and move on

, this is what I just don't get. He didn't want me anymore.

I don't get this either. Maybe they are like a little kid who castes away an old toy without an other thought UNTIL someone else wants to play with it. Then he suddenly really really wants it.

Such a waste

A friend just contacted me asking if I used her account and password. She had given them to me so that I could monitor the TicK. I had not tried to use it in months.

Seems a lot of hacking is happening lately.