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roughroadahead (original poster member #36060) posted at 1:05 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
I get a text from WH telling me how sorry he is that he screwed up, that he continually disrespected me with his "choices", that he is working on this with his IC, and that he has made a "somewhat uncomfortable" bed. Great. Is this a fishing attempt for R? No, because our perspectives on life are too different. He volunteered this info. I didn't ask.
What, WH? Why bother?
I wish I had a cool name for him, like Stretch or ex-shat....
[This message edited by roughroadahead at 7:29 PM, April 27th (Saturday)]
BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 1:52 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
Suck it up big boy... 
hope he enjoys that lumpy bed.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 1:53 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
(((roughroadahead)))
I am sorry you are frustrated? hurt? that your WH has apologized and it doesn't resonate.
I actually rolled my eyes at the "somewhat uncomfortable" bed... REALLY? doesn't sound too much like remorse does it?
I would gladly give you the "cool" nickname Stretch, but ex-idiot earned it. And I surely think if he knew about it, cool isn't the word he'd come up with!
The nickname was a way to depersonalize him in the same way that his cheating and accusations and blameshifting made me feel.
I feel confident that if it is important to you, a "cool nickname" based on his behaviors will fairly leap to mind.
(((more hugs)))
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
roughroadahead (original poster member #36060) posted at 1:56 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
I'm not hurt. Maybe frustrated. He's not remorseful. I am fairly confident that he is not NPD, but he is emotionally unavailable and conflict avoidant to an extreme. He is a scared little boy in a grown up body.
I laughed at the "somewhat uncomfortable" bed, I have to admit.
BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 1:59 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
so is it somewhat comfortable then? and is he somewhat sorry? or somewhat happy? OR totally indecisive? 
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 2:09 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
Let's help you come up with a cool nickname for him. I'm not as witty as some here, but I'll try to start it off...
lumpy (a lumpy bed is somewhat uncomfortable)
Bieber (because he sure thinks he's hot stuff, but there are a lot of people out there who realize what a joke he really is, though some are drawn in by the sparkles)
Dorian Gray - because he's certainly not what he's portraying to the world.
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 2:18 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
Oh, a game!! I will play.
Rather a synonym for somewhat
Somewhat but you could play with it and write it SoMeWhat, or soMEWhat, or give him a nickname out of it ... SW which brings to mind another asshat called Shit Weasel.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 2:18 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
Let's call him "Waffle"....
...because how in the world can his self-made bed be *somewhat uncomfortable*. It's either comfortable or uncomfortable.
Jeez, road....I can't believe that you weren't just swooning over his *heart-felt* apology.
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 2:19 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
roughroadahead (original poster member #36060) posted at 2:26 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
I like Waffle! It suits him perfectly, the man has never made a firm decision in his entire life. He waffled between me and MOW all last year, mostly without me realizing that's what he was doing. I also liked Dorian Gray, because I could call him that to his face and he wouldn't have a clue. Not terribly well read.
Lumpy had its appeal, but I firmly believe that is better suited to MOW than it is to him...
Thanks guys, for turning an eye roll moment into a laugh!
BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism
Afraid2LoveAgain ( member #11185) posted at 3:28 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
Princess.
Princess and the Pea (or should that be Pee) in his "somewhat uncomfortable" bed.
BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 3:49 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
Lumpy Waffle Man 
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 4:48 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
did you tell him he made his "somewhat uncomfortable" bed, and now he'll be sleeping (without you) in it?
What an idiot. Glad you could come here for a laugh though!
Why do they think the last-ditch weak-ass attempts at R by claiming "sorry!" will work??
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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