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thebighurt (original poster member #34722) posted at 4:50 PM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
While I was shopping, someone who is a relative of a relative saw me, gave me a big hug and said she heard how well I am doing now and how glad she is to hear it. Asked about a couple of specifics that told me she knows more.
She is a very nice person that I like and who is no-nonsense about infidelity and who she supports in it. So I made small talk asking her about her family and all. Then she asked more specific things. I figured wtf? I answered her, telling her more right there in the store than I have told other than close friends, my IC and here on SI. It felt good.
I really don't care any more. It is what it is and I didn't say anything that isn't the truth. There are people I know as well, unlike her, who would only ask so they could gossip, immediately spreading it, that I will avoid saying things to, but I just don't care any more in general. If those things eventually get around, that's ok too. Because it's the truth.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 9:03 PM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
Not being ashamed of the truth is a big step in the healing IMO.
Congrats
Exit Wounds ( member #32811) posted at 9:28 PM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
Hurt 1
I am sorry about what you are going through. Like MOO said, you are healing.
BIG HUGS 
Exit WoundsH of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 2:05 AM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2013
I found a bit of honesty when appropriate felt freeing. It's a process. My next milestone was reaching the point that I no longer felt the need to share it because gradually what he did is no longer the center of my life. That's a gradual thing but I'm there more and more.
((thebighurt))
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 4:34 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
trumanshow ( member #25624) posted at 6:09 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013
It does feel freeing doesn't it?
You have nothing to be ashamed of and should be able to get support wherever you can 
remarried 11-15-15
Her prize is a man who ran out on his wife and children. His is a woman who is too stupid to understand that she is not special, she is simply there.
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