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gma56 (original poster member #19595) posted at 8:25 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
I have started a new career in my NB and work with mostly men. I have a few new male friends in the same industry.
So went to a local bar with a new younger friend (he's late 40ish and divorced).
Him and I love our country music so we decided to check out the local talent together.
My friend looks young and I look ...my age. Some younger women kept looking at us and I noticed. They were definitely interested in my friend L. So I leaned over and told him about the group of women. He looked and said they were beautiful but he wasn't there to pick up women but to listen to music. Yep, L has been burned too and clueless.
About two hours later in the ladies room,two of the women approached me and asked if I was L's sister ? I just laughed and said,"No."
In the meantime L had talked with band on break and came back to the table when I returned. The band introduced L to the audience and L sang and played guitar for several songs. I had no idea L was so talented.
He dedicated a George Strait, (song that I love and reminds me of my Mom) Give it all We got Tonight, to me and pointed me out. He sounded great. He makes a good country singer even if he does wear a suit most days. lol
Then I heard the women behind me making comments about wth was HE doing with an old lady. I just laughed. I'm sooo not the cougar type.
So after the set he came back to the table and I told him about his fans. He planted a big kiss on me and said, Just to give them something to think about.
If I was married to FT, I wouldn't have never went out to enjoy the music I like. If FT were to agree to go, he would have ruined my joy of the evening.
I'm slowly enjoying and accepting being single and able to go do what I want.
I'm still not where I want to be but having fun even if it is warding off pushy women for a friend in small town California.
I'm lovin my life more and more.
Gma
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 8:31 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
You go girl!!!!!!
WB
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
cryingdaily ( member #7276) posted at 9:55 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
That's awesome! I like L.
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 10:03 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
Bwah, ha ha!!
I like him! 
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 10:18 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
That's awesome.
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
SoHappyNow ( member #8923) posted at 11:03 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
You SO deserve to have that kind of evening. And L sounds like a very classy guy to me!
In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus--------73 now. Dday #1 was 11/11/05 ***Used to be hit-by-a-train*** Widowed, then VERY happily remarried 2/14/14
CharlieFoxtrot ( member #38010) posted at 11:34 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
Two thumbs way UP!! I'm so glad you are having fun!!!
Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.
ineedtoleave ( member #29332) posted at 11:45 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
AWESOME!!!! I'm so happy for you... you've found your joy again! (((gma56)))
BS(me)-52
WH-59
OW-43(married ex-Co-worker)
Married 6 yrs
DD#1: 3/19/10
DD#2: 5/11/10
Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 11:48 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
This isn't my forum but with a title like that, I had to read this thread. Woot! You go girl!
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 12:48 AM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013
I just love reading the joy in this post.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Helen of Troy ( member #26419) posted at 1:15 AM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013
gma56 (original poster member #19595) posted at 1:37 AM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013
Yeah, I guess I'm having learning to have fun again.
I'm loving learning to do life spontaneously. No young kids and no FT. Gotta love the freedom.
I always thought FT and I could have those moments after we became empty nesters. It's been fun in my NB on my own.
Maybe someday there will be a SO to share but until then, Gma is enjoying the moments with friends .
I feel like a new woman. 
Gma
[This message edited by gma56 at 11:22 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)]
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
MyVoice ( member #35695) posted at 1:41 AM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013
Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:50 AM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013
love this!
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Survivor3512 ( member #37946) posted at 4:43 AM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013
Love it!!!
Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie
Newlease ( member #7767) posted at 4:48 PM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013
This is making me !
Glad you are enjoying life.
NL
Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.
gogirl ( member #26870) posted at 7:06 PM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013
Awesome to hear Gma. I absolutely wish you the best! You are a very special lady.
Great to hear you are having some fun!
It's never too late to live happily ever after.
cass ( member #24261) posted at 9:19 PM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013
DDay - April 2008
Me - 58 and doing great, alone.
Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket!
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 10:52 PM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013
Love this gma.
I haven't had male friends for a decade. The ones I had in my late 20s were either exes or or my reserve bench and IMO it was not appropriate to continue those friendships once I was in a relationship.
It has been fantastic to build new platonic male friendships. I have really missed the 'male' energy - don't get me wrong, I love my girl-gang, they are an amazing and hilarious bunch but I did miss having strong, smart, witty men around me.
Its a different kind of chicken soup for the soul.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
somer222 ( member #21377) posted at 11:59 PM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013
Good for you! Sounds like you found a very nice friend to have some fun with - enjoy!
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