I've been riding this infidelity train for a few years, and I couldn't count the number of pages I've read on infidelity, SA, co-dependency, abandonment, etc. (and I'm still reading!) I know others have bookshelves full of books as well. Out of them, what are your top three that you feel were most helpful and why, so newcomers can maybe review our suggestions to pick a book? Mine were:
1. Not Just Friends, Shirley Glass
I can't say enough how much of an eye opener that book was on what healthy boundaries are and the anatomy of infidelity, how it begins, the warning signs, etc.
2. The Journey from Abandonment to Healing, Susan Anderson
This one really helped me with self-soothing, not panicking when he made choices that harmed me, beginning to envision a better, healthier me, and without this one, I'd have never been able to have a successful 180.
3. Mending a Shattered Heart, Stefanie Carnes
This one was super beneficial for my understanding of SA, helped me move from "maybe" to "this is my life", helped me prepare myself for stronger boundaries and be prepared to follow through, helped me have some compassion for him while not allowing his behaviors to harm me also.