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LoveActually (original poster member #31030) posted at 3:49 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Four years ago today I found out my husband had been having a year long emotional/physical long distance affair with a stranger he had met at a bar while away on business. Although my d-day is the 29th of May, it will always be the Friday night before Memorial Day weekend. I can't believe that four years has passed. In some ways it's been a blur and in some ways it seems like a lifetime. The pain and road to healing has been the hardest thing I have ever faced. Even now, as many of you here, I have good days and bad, but mostly good now. The universe has presented me with a true gift for today. This day for the last three years meant "that day" the day my heart was smashed and my life was changed forever but not anymore. Tonight my beautiful daughter graduates from high school with honors. Four years ago tonight I was crying tears of agony from a broken heart. Tonight I will be crying tears of joy and pride. D-day doesn't get to own this day anymore--my daughter and her accomplishments now over shadow this day forever. I just want to say thank you to everyone here that has helped me along the way over the last few years. Your stories and your courage to share your experiences and knowledge has helped me grow, learn and heal more than you will ever know. 
BS (Me) WS (Him) D-Day 5/29/09Married 15 yrs, together 20 yrs
libertyrocks ( member #38924) posted at 4:52 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
AW, congrats!! So happy for you. Can't wait to be in your shoes one day...
Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.
ms521 ( member #12008) posted at 6:30 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
That is the happiest thing I can think of!! Congrats to your daughter, and enjoy the new meaning associated with the day. How wonderful!! 
Madhatters.
Me: FWW (STA 2002), now a BW.
Him: FWH (OW1: 2006-2007), now just WH (OW2: 2010-2013)
I will never stop trying... because when you find 'the one' you never give up. (Cal Weaver)
keeponkeepingon ( member #32935) posted at 6:31 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Congratulations LoveActually!
That makes me so happy to hear. I am struggling with our first anniversary and antiversary of DDay fast approaching. This gives me hope.
"I know you and you know me and I know you can see. So help me get my way back to you"
Bellecatprincess ( member #38902) posted at 6:34 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
This is awesome....Thank you it gives me hope.
D-Day #1 3/21/2013
D-Day #2 5/24/2013
Me BS 41
Him 41
OW 30 (8 months w/the SL*T) found out 5/24/13 more like 15 months
M 16 yrs (5/27/2000)
Together 20 years
2 sons(21,20 both US Marines)
D will be final 6/21/2013 nothing left to save
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ladya ( member #29184) posted at 7:12 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Congrats to you and your daughter. Enjoy the moment and take plenty of pictures. :)
Me:BS married 29 yrs.
5 kids
Time really does heal.
EA D-Day May 2008
PA D-Day May 7,2010 (same A)
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 7:46 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Thanks so much for sharing, LoveActually. I am so happy for you that you will be able to replace the negative with this positive event. Woot woot!
Congrats to your daughter!
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
LoveActually (original poster member #31030) posted at 9:49 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Sniff...Sniff...thanks you guys!
BS (Me) WS (Him) D-Day 5/29/09Married 15 yrs, together 20 yrs
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 10:01 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Ths is wonderful! Congrats to your daughter (and the whole family). Enjoy!
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
DixieD ( member #33457) posted at 11:13 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Yah! Congrats LA and family. Celebrate this new day.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 12:31 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013
That is wonderful!! Congrats!
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 1:02 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
OptimisticWife ( member #36587) posted at 3:11 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013
Thanks for sharing. I hope you all have a fantastic day!!
wantingtotrust ( member #6313) posted at 4:13 PM on Sunday, May 26th, 2013
Wow yoor post brought tears to my eyes. I am so happy that you can replace such a horrible day with a beautiful memory! Thank yoiu for sharing!
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