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huRtZ413 (original poster member #39214) posted at 10:37 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
I feel like I asked everything under the sun and he's answered them they're is only so much you can ask about a one time thing .....it got to the point where I just would make comments rather than questions because I don't know what else I think I need to know .
me_BW
him_WH
I'M ON THE FENCE
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 2:05 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013
Maybe its best to start talking about where you go from here. How is he going to handle the next woman who appeals to his ego? This will happen. You are both young and there is so much ahead of you. I urge you to get it right from here on in.
Perhaps get into MC, set up some boundaries. Do you know what your Wants/Needs (deal breakers)/Values are? I have to say, I had no clue what all of my H's were until we did this exercise this past year. And we are 15 years in!
I wish you well!
LA
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 8:41 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013
Here is a link to an article you may find helpful titled, 10 Questions to Ask Your Unfaithful Spouse:
http://www.ivillage.com/10-questions-ask-your-unfaithful-spouse-0/4-a-283611
I also recommend the book Not "Just Friends" by Shirley Glass. This book is very helpful for healing and for laying down the groundwork for R.
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
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