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dindy (original poster member #38424) posted at 9:03 AM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
So my kids have been invited to a birthday party that they attend every year. xWS has often taken them because I had to work. The thing is, all of the patents there have been my friends since before my ex and I got together and I know they don't think much of him now. It's on a Sunday when he has the children anyway. I would have them back early to take them but I'm on a course that day. It would be a shame for them to miss out.
Any thoughts?
ArkLaMiss ( member #14918) posted at 10:06 AM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
If you trust him and think he's responsible, then yes. Otherwise, no.
Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 10:17 AM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
It sounds like you're afraid the X might be humiliated; that might not be a bad thing 
Do you think he would behave badly and embarrass your kids? If not, I say he takes them and sucks it up.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
dindy (original poster member #38424) posted at 11:04 AM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
Yes I was thinking he will just have to suck it up! :) I was thinking more about my friends feeling awkward. I've let him know now so he is taking them.
dindy (original poster member #38424) posted at 12:43 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
I also reckon that he will make some excuse not to take them as he is a massive, spineless coward. I'm sure his mummy would be happy to hold his hand though and tell him what a special boy he is!
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 2:11 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
Unless he is a danger to the kids, his relationship with them is his business.
He fired you from handling the fallout of his choices.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
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