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He married OW in Hawaii. On my dime.

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 nutmegkitty (original poster member #33882) posted at 2:01 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

Yep, the douchebag married the OW sometime this past week in Hawaii.

I am relieved that now his kibble supply will be coming from someone else.

BUT, the whole trip was funded by the proceeds of my 401K - you see, the QDRO settlement went through a couple weeks ago and he got a chunk of my $$, which I am sure he promptly cashed out. Ouch, this stings!!!!

And, I do not even know if he told the girls beforehand that they were getting married. On Thursday night he texted a bunch of pics to my dds, and I happened to glance at dd2's phone. I saw the standard "hands with wedding rings" pic, and threw up in my mouth a little bit.

Eh, fuck them both. May they be miserable together ever after. Oh, have I mentioned he's in AA now? And hounding everyone who he thinks has a drinking problem to get themselves into AA? He has already pissed off royally one brother with this new line of behavior. Batshit crazy I tell you.

gotta go, kiddos coming into room...

[This message edited by nutmegkitty at 8:02 AM, June 2nd (Sunday)]

Me - happy!
2 DDs

Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 2:09 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

I hope she bleeds the fucker dry. I hope all of the OW do. It would be the decent thing to do IMO.

Here's wishing them a marriage as good as my own was.

If they cheat WITH you they will cheat ON you.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 2:14 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

I wish them all the happiness they deserve

If they cheat with you, they will cheat on you.

Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess

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tesla ( member #34697) posted at 2:17 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

Eh, fuck them both. May they be miserable together ever after.

Something tells me they will be.

And ring pics to the kids?

Tacky.

Stupid fucking morons.

So he's in AA, huh? When does that step come where he has to tell all the people he's wronged that he's sorry? That should be interesting.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 4:39 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

((NMK))

That blows.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 4:46 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

Bat shit crazy is right. Karma will bite their asses in the end. Just wait.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 5:01 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

(((nutmegkitty)))

Eh, fuck them both. May they be miserable together ever after.

^^couldn't have said it better myself!

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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dmari ( member #37215) posted at 5:03 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

He may physically be going to AA but I doubt he is working the program.

What a loser ... thank goodness he is not your problem.

[This message edited by dmari at 11:04 AM, June 2nd (Sunday)]

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debbysbaby ( member #32962) posted at 6:40 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

And

So he's in AA, huh? When does that step come where he has to tell all the people he's wronged that he's sorry? That should be interesting.

I agree. ...poopsmear would skip that step.

-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 6:41 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

Wow, what a clueless fuck.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 7:08 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

((((nutmeg & kids))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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scotslass ( member #39204) posted at 8:26 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

((((NMk)))

He is now someone else's problem. Ain't that the truth!!!

Me. - moving on and upward !!!

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Snapdragon ( member #4286) posted at 8:39 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

Wow... How very financially responsible.

I am also wishing them all the happiness they deserve.

As for being in AA and getting preachy.... what an ass.

Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink

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 nutmegkitty (original poster member #33882) posted at 9:48 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

yeah, I'm not holding my breath waiting for an AA inspired apology. I know very well he's only playing the AA game because that's what OW thinks will save him - and he's pretty stuck in his mess so he has no choice. I know he will fall off the wagon sooner or later. If you remember, he was arrested on DV charges (he pushed or slapped her), adn I fully believe it was over booze.

He's on such a bad path. Since most of his family won't talk to him, he's befriended his brother's 30 something son. This kid was a hard core coke addict for a long time. Spent a while in rehab, was doing ok, and now he's off the wagon. SU-fucking-PER! Just who I want my girls around when they are at their dad's.

Meh. I am nearly to indifferent. I am focused on ME now. And I kinda like it.

Me - happy!
2 DDs

Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.

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Holly-Isis ( member #13447) posted at 10:43 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

I'm sorry. It's truly incredible- as in not credible that a human would make those choices, such as funding his wedding to a HW with his XBW's money.

As for AA- the amends can't happen until he takes a "fearless moral inventory". I hope he has a sponsor that will hold his feet to the fire on that. From the sound sof it though he's talking the talk but not walking the walk.

"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 11:37 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

Wow. What a colossally irresponsible thing to do yet also very predictable. It's important for the unremorseless to pull out all the stops in order to justify their love: "See! We didn't go skulking off to the justice of the peace and get married quietly like we were embarrassed! Our love is REAL and RIGHT, so we're going to do it in the most romantic and showy way possible!"

My older brother had a tiny wedding for his first wedding. His wedding to the Owife was a pretentious, ostentatious affair (pun intended). I won't be the least bit surprised to hear that STBX ends up having some obnoxious wedding (not sure who would come, though) instead of the front yard, mudpit wedding I thought he was going to have.

It's just like the story of the grasshopper and the ant. You'll take care of business like the ant, stockpiling for the winter while the grasshopper plays his fiddle and lives for the moment, and then when winter hits, you'll be warm and snug and well-prepared, and he'll be freezing in the cold, hoping that someone will rescue him.

Isn't it nice that you're no longer married to that child? I hope that the OW enjoys the ugly winter ahead!

FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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FieldsOfLavender ( member #39154) posted at 12:14 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013

If they cheat with you, they will cheat on you.

I hope this is true on many levels. I hope it's worse than the feeling of salt being pored on an open wound.

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persevere ( member #31468) posted at 1:43 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013

I also wish the new Mr & Mrs all the happiness they deserve.

I'm sorry nmk, I remember the sting, yes, definitely batshit crazy.... And I am SO happy he is no longer your problem.

((nutmegkitty))

DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 2:13 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013

That's a dick move. Jerk.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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wontdefineme ( member #31421) posted at 2:52 AM on Monday, June 3rd, 2013

Tax implications next year.

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