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gma56 (original poster member #19595) posted at 2:28 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
Just something to think about if you are considering being a cougar. I guess it could work the same for men seeking much younger women. 
It made me giggle.
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BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:36 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
Oy... 
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 2:39 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
gma56 (original poster member #19595) posted at 2:49 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
Confession: it makes me giggle because I'm finishing my 2nd glass of really good wine.
Ah, come on FF, you know how much you want the 25 yr old guy sitting next to you in class. 
Some of the guys I work with love to tease me about it's time to look for a younger model because FT was so much older. No, not this old lady. A little younger would be fine but not younger than my DD !!!
That's my boundary line and I'm sticking to it.
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:55 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
Oh Jeez Louise, I spend all day dealing with them over the counter at the college....
Some are quite swoon-worthy I must say, but I can't imagine going there in reality.
That's why they invented fantasy!
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
gma56 (original poster member #19595) posted at 3:05 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
That's why they invented fantasy
I agree !
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
inhishands55 ( member #9454) posted at 3:15 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
Well, the guy I am seeing is younger than me..I might be considered a cougar..I am not old enough to be his mother and I didn't go to school with his father or mother...
When you reach a certain age, age is just a number...I wouldn't see someone in their 20's or 30's..,,,But 40's is just fine with me and I am in my 50's...
He makes me laugh and we have a very good time together...He has kids and mine is grown...We make each other happy and that is all that matters.... 
Hope24 ( member #9344) posted at 3:21 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
I just saw that on Facebook tonight.
She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.
click4it ( member #209) posted at 3:22 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 4:08 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
I do not feel like a cougar. We are clear that we really care for each other but NO way is there any future. I am 53 and he is 35. In addition he is so ADD I would be his mother and he would resent me like a teenager.
But I really like him and he feels the same.
I just feel happy and lucky!
Hope I did not ruin the purpose of this post!
gma56 (original poster member #19595) posted at 4:33 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
But 40's is just fine with me and I am in my 50's...
That is about my younger age limit too. 
Mid 40s. My DD will be 40 in two weeks, that icks me if I was dating someone her age. That's just me.
Gma
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 4:35 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
gma56 (original poster member #19595) posted at 5:38 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
just saw that on Facebook tonight.
I did too and the last line made me chuckle because I get told so much this should be my next path....cougar. 
Maybe ????
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
click4it ( member #209) posted at 7:23 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
I went to lunch someone a few weeks ago who said they were a recovering cougar.
I laughed my ass off. First time I heard of that.
Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
gma56 (original poster member #19595) posted at 5:17 PM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
who said they were a recovering cougar
I didn't know this was something we have to recover from !! 
Definitely need to rethink.
Gma
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BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 5:50 PM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
My sister used to joke about wanting to be a cougar, but as she was only 30 she would have to settle for being a puma. Well I really wanted to post this to her facebook last night, but she is currently in a relationship with a man in his 50s so it didn’t seem apt.
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
Done_withThePain ( member #34273) posted at 8:38 AM on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
I went younger but it just happened- and we are as happy as I could have never imagined sometimes you just have to take the other for who they are not just a number 
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 12:42 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
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