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rumorhasit (original poster member #38943) posted at 5:04 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Not even a phone call. I can't talk to anyone but my family to avoid giving his angst anything to feed off of, so I will say it here:
Asshole asshole dumbass asshole!
There.
Sometimes I feel like SI is that person who says... "if you can't say anything nice... come sit by me!" Lol
BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo
Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M
"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin
Heartless Bytchh ( member #12347) posted at 5:40 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Oh! Oh! Me! Me!
*both hands raised and waving furiously*
The same kind that does a vanishing act on Father's Day to the skankzilla 1 and skankzilla 2's house and can't be bothered to answer his cell phone *aka as his third testicle*.
Then when he finally shows up in the real world three or four days later and is questioned about it, has two different lameass stories about how he fell off the truck step and had to go to the ER because he messed up his ankle and he also had a bad toothache and he didn't have access to/ wasn't answering his phone.
Woodchipper pretty much trumps everything.-Rufus Turner
Sometimes I feel like SI is that person who says... "if you can't say anything nice... come sit by me!"-rumorhasit
Heartless Bytchh ( member #12347) posted at 5:42 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Sometimes I feel like SI is that person who says... "if you can't say anything nice... come sit by me!"
I'm so stealing this, I think it's totally true.
Woodchipper pretty much trumps everything.-Rufus Turner
Sometimes I feel like SI is that person who says... "if you can't say anything nice... come sit by me!"-rumorhasit
rumorhasit (original poster member #38943) posted at 6:39 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Wow thats a crazy story! I cant believe the stuff a WS will think sounds legit! Lol. I am thankful to only have to hear nothing!
I swear, kids in Big Brothers, Big Sisters see their mentors more than my kid sees his dad.
Awesome I am quoted in a signature!
BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo
Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M
"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin
atadstressed ( member #22295) posted at 7:19 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Mine didn't see them or answer his phone either. His consequences will come when they completely give up on him. which isn't too far off!
DDay 21/12/07 & numerous after
false recon until 08/10/10
threw him out 08/10/10
Not quite there yet but mostly happy being single
Don't engage with an idiot. They will bring you down to their level and beat you with experience.
rumorhasit (original poster member #38943) posted at 8:21 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Apparently he went to the county fair. Father of the f-ing year.
For someone who is going into custody mediation with DD's mom tomorrow morning, you'd think he might make an effort to appear involved and invested in his kids. Idiot.
BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo
Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M
"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 11:49 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Last year EX decided it was more important to take his boyfriend (gay affairs) to NYC instead of seeing his children.
When I called him on it, he said, "I forgot it was Father's Day". 
This year he showed up. I didn't congratulate him for showing....but I think he expected me to. I'm not praising him for doing what he is supposed to do.
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 12:36 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Yep. Told me it didn't mean anything to the girls nor to him. Nice.
He spent it with OWUmpteen instead.
She is only a few years older than a child he almost had an quite a few years younger than a child he was stepdad to.
I suppose it is kind of appropriate if you look at it that way. Sicko. 
My girls and I had a brilliant day with their grandpa. The sad clowns loss was my gain.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 1:38 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
My dad never ever did. In fact he used to say "It's FATHER'S day. My day to do what I want to do."
I said "oh, you mean ignore your children? The ones who made you a father?"
My mom got an earful after that. He always assumed that she "poisoned" my mind against him. The possibility that I had MY OWN MIND never occured to him.
eta: spelling errors 
[This message edited by itainteasy at 7:39 AM, June 17th (Monday)]
TXBW68 ( member #36456) posted at 1:54 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
My father left when I was 1.5 years old. I vaguely remember him showing up at my 8th, 12th, 16th birthdays and high school graduation. I think my grandma made him.
I always celebrated my mom on Father's Day! She was all the parent I ever needed!
Me (46) WH (42),2 boys 15 & 11
M 18yrs T 22yrs
Separated 10 months (4/12 to 2/13)
Final Total - #1/#2 ONS and #3/#4 EA/PA - left me for #4, didn't know about #2 and 3 until he moved back home
We are solidly in R now
rumorhasit (original poster member #38943) posted at 3:15 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
If he had always been a POS dad then that would be one thing. But he wasn't, he was a good dad. He loved his children. They were a priority. To see this change, and knowing that Mrs. Robinson is influencing him, is depressing.
BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo
Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M
"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 1:38 AM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
Mine didn't show up on the Father's Day after D-day. He also skipped her 1st birthday party thrown by HIS FAMILY to go to a wedding with the OW.
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
BrighterFuture ( member #38914) posted at 9:33 AM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
My xfiance didn't see his son or call either. He didn't come for the ultrasound I had last month either. I stopped expecting him to be responsible and it's saving me a lot of heartache and disappointements. Since he moved out in Feb, he has only seen his son 2 times less than 30 mins each.
On Father's day, my son and I went to church where he was hugging strange men, then afterwards we went to eat. He's a very sweet boy and his dad is missing out.
Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!
"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 10:28 AM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
My xwh doesn't want the kids on fathers day either but then gets angry when the kids don't buy anything
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
atadstressed ( member #22295) posted at 6:18 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
My youngest daughter has just had a row with him on the phone because he was angry with our children for not sending him a card and organising something special for him. This, from a father that pays nothing and doesn't make any effort to see or speak to them! 
DDay 21/12/07 & numerous after
false recon until 08/10/10
threw him out 08/10/10
Not quite there yet but mostly happy being single
Don't engage with an idiot. They will bring you down to their level and beat you with experience.
Lola2kids ( member #32789) posted at 6:24 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
Ex called to talk to me because one DD was upset with him and didn't want to talk to him.
He asked me if the girls knew it was Father's Day.
I said they know Father's Day is June 16th. I don't know if they know that today is June 16th.
He came over later and I heard him whisper to them asking if they were going to tell him Happy Father's Day. He got the usual, stilted response.
Then the DD who was mad at him quickly made him a card.
The front said, "Happy Farters Day".
I'm pretty sure she knows how to spell Father.
I kind of had to laugh.
BS: (Me) 48
Kids: twins DD(11)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved an ocean away June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"
Afraid2LoveAgain ( member #11185) posted at 6:41 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
Then the DD who was mad at him quickly made him a card.
The front said, "Happy Farters Day".
I'm pretty sure she knows how to spell Father.
Damn, that's funny.
BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 6:56 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
Wow, mine didn't spend it with the kids either. Our 19 yr old text him Happy Fathers Day.. and son was with me but told him Happy Fathers Day at his basketball game that morning.
I was going to cook for Wh as he did for Mothers Day..I guess I took to long and got the boys something to eat on way home, than went to store and he actually text son "tell you mom I dont know if I want fist" he left my apartment and text me that I was a lame ass, a bitch ass hoe that he did not get any gifts. What he did not understand was his gift was in garage. He had a gift and dinner. He chose to assume and leave... Now I am getting NC and if I do it is a evil message.
BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 6:58 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
:::::pointing accusatorily to Mr. Trac-Fone::::::
The kind of man I married.
I suppose if the kids were flush, and had resources to entertain him sufficiently, he would have spent time with them.
He instead got a couple of text messages from kids who feel like he doesn't want anything to do with them---that being with them is not enough.
Sadly, they're right.
(They told me that I was their father now. Which made me quite sad.)
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
Reality ( member #39077) posted at 9:52 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
*raises hand, too*
Though honestly, that was the best case scenario. It is funny to watch him flinch from being forcibly reminded my oldest son is now four inches or so taller than him, but there's better ways to be amused on a holiday.
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