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iammine (original poster new member #39461) posted at 11:06 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
I had to work a 9 hr shift yesterday. And OW text H and wished him a Happy Fathers Day. She asked him if he was going to have a big dinner made for him. Instead of saying I was working all day, he had to lie to her and say no one wished him a HFD and he got nothing. All the kids and myself wished him a HFD and gave him a gift and a card! So OW went on how terrible it was that I wasn't home to cook him a big meal and no one acknowledged FD to him...
Then she says "awwww poor guy, that's not right"
~sighs~
openedupmyeyes ( member #27871) posted at 11:27 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
What?????? Wait. What??.. HuH.
Why are they texting? So sorry for your pain.
[This message edited by openedupmyeyes at 5:27 AM, June 17th (Monday)]
Me:55 BS
Him:55 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:37
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.
iammine (original poster new member #39461) posted at 12:08 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
I have not confronted. It appears he is having an EA with her. They text from the early morning to the last thing at night.
ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 2:12 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
((((((iammine))))))
You are so very strong to be holding back what you know to gather evidence and find out the truth about what is going on. I'm so sorry he is doing this to you 
I think this should be a lesson to all the people wanting to confront or be angry with the OW/OM. The WS has been LYING to them about you, so they really start to feel justified in their twisted minds for what they have been doing..
Big, big hugs to you..
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 3:09 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Screw the confrontation.
I would gather his shit and leave it on the porch.
Asshole!!
I am so angry for you 
[This message edited by karmahappens at 11:58 AM, June 17th (Monday)]
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 3:41 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Yup, most make us out to be horrible wives so they get a pity party from OW.
Makes me sick.
I am so sorry sweetie.
BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
hopingforhappy ( member #29288) posted at 3:42 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Something similar happened to me. I was reading old e-mails between my FWH and OW and he told her that nobody did anything for his birthday. Now, I can't remember exactly what we did for that particular birthday (this was a number of years ago), but I can guarantee we made a big deal of his birthday--because we always did! Why in the world would someone tell that kind of a lie? The only reason I can think is to garner sympathy, "oh you poor baby, let me make it up to you." It totally stinks.
Me--BW (57)
Him--FWH (54)--5yr. LTA--OW probably BPD
Married 21 years
DS-19, DD-16
Reconciling--but boy is it hard!
Josephine01 ( member #38511) posted at 3:55 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
My h did a similar thing, he told the OW that I never dress up for him or pay any attention to him.
When they do this kind of thing isn't it like leading the OW on?
I am so sorry this happened iammine.
Me, 47 BS
H, 65 WH
2 boys 23 and 18 years old
Married 24 years
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