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I haven't posted in a long time as things had improved so much and had recently gotten better when out of the blue a new job opportunity fell into fwh lap. A bit of background is my fwh had a nearly 3 yr lta with an out of state coworker who was married and carried on multiple As. Her two best friends also worked for the company and one worked directly for my H. That particular one befriended me and while in my home would snap photos of me, my kids, our house etc for the OW. These two facilitated and encouraged the A by letting them use their hotel rooms at conferences, giving advice on not getting caught, telling him how he deserved the A bc I was a SAHM and he made a lot of money and was entitled to it. I could go on and on . One was divorced twice due to her affairs and the other was currently having As of her own. A bunch of evil low life's. anyhow once caught one of ow buddies started texting and calling fwh nonstop, then me trying to make things worse. She harassed me for about two months knowing her H had been informed. She point blank told me I deserved it-why? Well because I made my H wait for sex a few weeks after giving birth and bc I sometimes asked him to stop at the store for milk on the way home from work.

Fast forward. Haven't heard from the crew for months. H gets a new and better job. Word gets out and all 3 of these beasts start calling my H best friend who is our kids godfather as well. They ask all sorts of questions about us. Why he quit, etc. I am then sent a FB message by one if the ow buddies ex bh. Telling me she met some guy and is now suing him for harassment bc he won't rollover and let her move the kids in with this man. Anyhow he asks me to please speak to his lawyer who needs the info on her behavior to damage her case against the exbh. I tell him about them contacting fwh best friend. Next day the texts start rolling in to fwh phone from ow buddy asking him to TELL me to stop talking to her exbh. Fwh doesn't reply and texts keep coming. Fwh changes his number and they all flipped.

Should I speak to this exh attorney like he has asked? Part of me knows all of these old bags are going to keep at us if I do. Part of me thinks it is a tiny payback for what this woman did. Not sure how involved I want to be. I find it telling that nearly 2yrs post dday they are still thinking about this and wanting info on our life. I truly wish these women nothing but lonely lives and it seems they might be on that path. Plus now that fwh has a new job nothing besides my good nature is preventing me from exposing them to the company. They may like to see how ow spends her workdays.... With various sex toys and her company phone...

Sorry long and hard read. Typing on iPad is no fun!

[This message edited by Hopetosurvive98 at 2:28 PM, June 24th (Monday)]

Personally, I'd call and spill my guts. After all, payback is a (karmic) bitch!

If you keep to the truth, what would be wrong about answering questions? Personally, if you keep to the truth, IMO you'd be doing a service to the exh and to the kids.

That's where I'm leaning. It would all be truths , I would never embellish for the sake of revenge. The truth is bad enough . Thank you , I've been so torn and so badly want these women out of my life.

I would talk to the BH's lawyer, and then file restraining orders against all of these women, and let the BH's lawyer know about that too. What a bunch of losers!