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Audrina (original poster member #31522) posted at 8:50 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
I have not been on in a while but decided to check in.
I am relieved to say that it does get "better". At least it has for me.
It has been almost 4 yrs since DDAY...we have not had a cheating related argument for about 9 months now.
I just don't feel the need to bring it up anymore, rehash, think about it etc I'm enjoying life and my relationship.
I know that if it ever happened again, I would be gone in a second.
Triggers have diminished to almost nothing and I am relieved.
I feel safe.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 9:40 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
Wonderful update!!! Thank you for sharing. 
sadallthetime ( member #26845) posted at 11:50 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
Double post - sorry
[This message edited by sadallthetime at 5:54 PM, June 29th (Saturday)]
Me-BW 60 now, FWH 64 now, 2 adult kids
DD#1 7-21-09 11 yr. affair w OW 30 yrs. younger who is an "escort". DD#2 7-23-09 Long Term EA with mutual friend DD#3 10-3-09 1 1/2 yr PA with escort #2 DD#4 10 yr. EA w/old GF
sadallthetime ( member #26845) posted at 11:53 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
(((Audrina))) I am almost 4 years out also. It's getting better. I am enjoying life & my marriage again. Agree with all you said especially if it ever happened again I would be out of here in a second. Both FWH and know that. Our relationship is loving. Thanks for sharing.,
Me-BW 60 now, FWH 64 now, 2 adult kids
DD#1 7-21-09 11 yr. affair w OW 30 yrs. younger who is an "escort". DD#2 7-23-09 Long Term EA with mutual friend DD#3 10-3-09 1 1/2 yr PA with escort #2 DD#4 10 yr. EA w/old GF
TarheelMom ( member #35726) posted at 3:33 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
So glad to hear this! :) I'm happy for you!!!
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 12:27 PM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
petite71 ( member #36475) posted at 1:27 PM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
Thanks for sharing!!! 
1st DD 03/24/2012 2nd DD 07/13/2012 TT A. in 2002 same girl when we were dating.
Status:Getting Stronger...we can get through this & are healing together
BS(me):41
WS(Husband):40
LTA 10 yrs EA/PA 9 times. friends with benefits.
Us..Together 12 yr
sri624 ( member #33956) posted at 5:06 AM on Monday, July 1st, 2013
thanks for sharing....i guess it really does take a long time for it to get better...4 years....geez. but i am glad that you shared this. it only reinforces to me that it takes a long time...and a lot of hard work to get through this. it cant be rushed in any way. thanks again.
BS (41):(Former Doormat)
WS (39):(Busted Cheater)
Married: 10 years, 3 kids under 5
DD1: 10/11 PA/EA with pilates instructor/former stripper.
DD2: 10/12 False r, cheating with other women, online dating,Substance abuse issues.
R:Last chance
myone and only ( member #26450) posted at 1:38 PM on Monday, July 1st, 2013
I'm also glad I read this. Haven't posted in a long time. It's almost 4 years for me and just when I think the worst is over, BAM, a trigger sets me off back in time and the anger just overwhelms me and puts me in a funk for days. Then I come out of it and things are better.
Anyone else going through this? Will this ever end? Or is this the life I now must lead? Please help.
me BS 51
her WS 45
status: R
"Just You And I"
dday 11-28-09
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 1:56 PM on Monday, July 1st, 2013
is this the life I now must lead
wondering this myself. I have choices I realize but none seem very good to me.
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