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hexed (original poster member #19258) posted at 6:33 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
I made one. I'm not sure why but I know I need to go.
What do you talk about with your IC when you're not sure why you're going?
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 6:35 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
Talk about what is going on in your life. How you're feeling about things. I'm sure one thing will lead to another.
Failure is success if we learn from it.
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 6:38 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
I'm not sure why but I know I need to go.
Sounds like a good place to start to me!
(((hexed)))
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 6:54 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
I'd just lead off with that... you don't know why you're there but you know you need to be. I'm sure he/she will be able to ask whatever leading questions are required to get you from point A forward. It's what they do. 
(((hexie)))
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
veelop5 ( member #11089) posted at 8:03 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
Hexed...talk about what you feel at the moment....sorry that you are having a tough time...you always help me when I am down...please feel free to message me if you must!! good luck at IC.
ME-40
XH-DOESN'T MATTER ANYMORE
3 beautiful boys (21,20 & 17)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
10/27/2014-Met a wonderful man 9months ago
Divorce final 3/27/2013
silentlyscreamin ( new member #34792) posted at 8:11 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
I just had my first IC appt yesterday. Usually the 1st session is taking some background information, what you do for living, kids, relationships with family, etc and then you may start to get some questions about how you are feeling, what led you to call, etc. You will be surprised how fast it goes and how it can all pour out, especially if it is a good "fit" with your counselor. I actually just posted about it under the Divorce section. Although I felt sick about going and still feel a little sick about how my conversation went, it was a good kind of sick if that makes sense and I say that because "change is not comfortable" but that doesn't make it a bad thing. Good luck with your appointment and don't filter!
Married 5 years
DD 12/31/11 EA
DD#2 12/27/12 PA, started 9/12, ended 12/12
Status: living together due to finances but I feel continued anger and am leaning 95% toward divorce
hexed (original poster member #19258) posted at 8:34 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
i should add that this is the counselor we use for famly counseling so I know her and like her.
veelop IMs with you aren't a 'must'. its always a pleasure. nice to 'see' you.
i'm not really down. just feeling unsettled, not quite right KWIM?
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
veelop5 ( member #11089) posted at 8:37 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
I meant if you would like to....boy my words come out wrong sometimes!!! Anytime...anytime...
ME-40
XH-DOESN'T MATTER ANYMORE
3 beautiful boys (21,20 & 17)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
10/27/2014-Met a wonderful man 9months ago
Divorce final 3/27/2013
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 5:07 AM on Friday, August 9th, 2013
The situation you shared with us about your guy and the party at your home with that opportunistic ex was pretty unsettling. That comes to my mind, but I imagine there are many possibilities.
I've had appointments like this... I just start with saying what I feel at the moment, and I try to stay present to the next feeling that comes up after that. It's great to be really listened to, it can help so much come up and out including our own answers to questions we didn't know we had.
Good luck.
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
hexed (original poster member #19258) posted at 8:06 PM on Friday, August 9th, 2013
IL 
staying present in the now was a theme of the session. it was very good. it did not go in the direction I expected. it was HUGELY helpful.
I addressed the issue with TG and the opportunistic X. we covered my being to damn busy with work, my own insecurities and falling back in to some old patterns I wasn't seeing. She really helped me identify a couple things. Won't be able to see her again for about month but I'm glad I went.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
click4it ( member #209) posted at 8:14 PM on Friday, August 9th, 2013
hexed - glad your session was helpful. It always great when you have a counselor that really "gets it". Its hard to make that step to go see one, but well worth it. ((hexed))
Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 10:29 PM on Friday, August 9th, 2013
I'm glad you had a successful session. Did you make another appointment for next month?
Failure is success if we learn from it.
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