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I confronted him, he left, now he is the victim...

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 Elphaba (original poster new member #40110) posted at 8:40 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013

Hey all-

Well, DDay #3 came on Monday evening. I wouldn't let up about the "nothing happened" statement- and he finally confessed that he did indeed go meet the prostitute for sex.

I made him give me all of his passwords...all of the facts. He seemed robotic.

The next day- I went over his cell phone records...it gets worse. "dial a whore" numbers, sex lines, and calls to many other women.

I told him we were going to have a long chat that night...he proceeds to leave my car in the parking lot at my work (he picks me up from work daily) with the keys in it, and a text that states he is going to "finish himself".

I panic- get friends and family involved looking for him for the next 24 hours...he finally responds through a third party "I am ok, and I want no further information shared" WTF?!?!

His friends immediately start coddling him, poor guy, just needs to blow off steam etc...WHAT??

How has HE now become the fucking victim???

He won't speak to me- nothing...I am left high and dry.

So- lesson learned. Trust no one...

This too shall pass, but while it's happening, IT BLOWS!!!

My heart is shattered.

So Confused, Hurt, Humiliated...
But strong...
DDay #1 06/23/13
DDay #2 08/05/2013
DDay #5 02/08/14
DDay #3 08/12/13
DDay #4 08/13/13
DDay #5 08/17/22
...you get the idea

Married Sept 14 2015
Fully in R

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 8:43 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013

((((Elphaba))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 8:43 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013

(((Elphaba)))

It is easy to fool people in the moment but soon his lies will fall apart and his ruse will be up. You did the right things even though they aren't the easy to deal with at the moment. We are here for support so if you can't find that right not IRL be sure to keep leaning on us here.

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Baldeagle ( new member #40194) posted at 9:27 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013

The ruse will never be up as long he has a support system and that system doesn't care who he hurt if they're not the victims. Been there & still going through it 1.5yrs later.

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