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heartbroken_kk (original poster member #22722) posted at 5:17 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
STBXWHNPDPAFTG sent me some texts last night. One was "16 years ago tonight?" meaning that our first date was 16 years ago. The other was "I'm out on the porch thinking of both the expanse and the shortness of time. You?"
OK, so first of all, kudos to me for my reactions. Initially, it was basically 
I think, that possibly I have achieved indifference. He got crickets, and it wasn't even difficult. The messages came in at 10:30 at night, and I even slept just fine.
Today, I notified him I would be stopping by his place to pick up some items he had stored for a non-profit we are mutually involved in. He responds inviting me to dinner, his treat. At a restaurant I've been at with him, in tears. Where I've left after throwing my napkin in his face and walked 2 miles home. It's not a great place for me. But he likes it! I told him I ate already.
I'm healing people. It may be technically our anniversary. The perseid meteor showers - OK, so what if our first date was stargazing, and we commemorated it by exchanging vows 3 years later. Whatever. I don't know if I will even bother looking up.
I am looking forward to meeting him in court however. My sister bought me a six-pack of Alimony Ale. I'm saving some. 
[This message edited by heartbroken_kk at 11:18 PM, August 11th (Sunday)]
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
click4it ( member #209) posted at 5:22 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
STBXWHNPDPAFTG
...what does THAT stand for?
I love your reaction to his fishing...love love love it.
Glad you are able to see past his BS. And so glad you aren't going to dinner with him!
Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 5:48 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Anniversary dinner ?
Yeah...right.
Yes court will be soon enough to spend time with him. 
Alimony Ale sounds wonderful! 
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 5:52 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Wait- you have Alimony Ale? Where did you find that?
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
HurtsButImOK ( member #38865) posted at 6:08 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
STBXWHNPDPAFTG
...what does THAT stand for?
is it wrong that it made perfect sense to me
ETA - yay for indifference and healing!!
[This message edited by HurtsButImOK at 12:12 AM, August 12th (Monday)]
Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore
"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou
MyReturn2Me ( member #34352) posted at 6:56 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
STBXWHNPDPAFTG
Soon to be ex wayward husband ,narcissistic personality disordered, passive aggressive FUCK THAT GUY ~ LOL Am I close??
Me: BS 51 and Freaking AWESOME!
Him: Who the fuck cares........
click4it ( member #209) posted at 7:06 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
lmao!! I guess that must be it!!!
Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 7:28 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
STBXWHNPDPAFTG
So please provide a translation for us 'stupid' folk.
I followed this acronym along until I reached tha AFTG point.
(does AFTG = "And fuck that guy" or wht?
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 12:03 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
There are no fish in this pond.
This pond has no water.
Fuck Off.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 12:12 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
SoonToBeXWaywardHusband NarcissisticPersonalityDisorderPassiveAgressiveFuckThatGuy!
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
trebleclef ( member #33488) posted at 12:27 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Good for you!
And - yes! I interpreted that acronym right off lol!
True remorse isn't followed by a "but".
ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 3:14 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Is it bad I knew what it meant right away too?
What SBB said. There are no fish in this pond. This pond has no water. Fuck off!!
And yeah for indifference! You go girl.
[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 9:27 AM, August 12th (Monday)]
heartbroken_kk (original poster member #22722) posted at 3:20 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
You all guessed right! I thought it was pretty easy to parse....
Its been foggy (literally) overnight here for weeks. This morning I woke up to a lovely sunrise instead of gray gloom
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 4:46 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
I have seen this on SI a few times....where an EX wants to have dinner on the anniversary.
If mine ever asks, I am going to counter the offer with:
"Sorry, I am not available. However, if you would like to get together on July 27th to recite our divorce decree....I am all in!"
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 4:51 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
You are my hero!
I feel myself moving quickly now to the place of-- I don't give a damn -- and honestly it feels great!!!
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
heartbroken_kk (original poster member #22722) posted at 5:35 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Alimony Ale is from a brewery here in Hayward, East Bay Area. Buffalo Bill's http://beeradvocate.com/beer/profile/205/158
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:50 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
There are no fish in this pond.
This pond has no water.
Fuck Off.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
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