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Long Gone (original poster member #32587) posted at 5:25 AM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
I had a few blow ups early on...but over time I handled it pretty well. For the past 5-6 months my wife has had issues with perimenopause hitting way early. Intimacy and sex life has gone to shit.....she sees her MD....and I was told this and I understand, but my brain doesn't for some reason. She is depressed, quiet.....not engaged. This is pre A behavior in my head....same shit that lead down that road for her. This weekend I lost my shit....I had zero filter.
I don't know what to do.....my brain is telling me to pack my shit and run....even though nothing is going on.....R was going very very well until this stuff started. Weight gain (I support her in every way btw)....mood swings....
This shit cousl not have hit at a worst time (maybe other than the first year post DDay).
Anyways.....ugh
Feelsmall ( new member #40413) posted at 10:22 AM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
I do remember once learnt from someone else
trust 25% of what you heard, 50% of what you see and 100% of what you feel.
Be supportive and be ready for the worst case to come, if that's all it takes to have her happy with AP, why can't we just let it go, it can't do no good to anyone if her soul is long long gone and what you get is just a empty body.
Keep posting, man.
Me BH 31
WW 29
DD 07.2013
DS 2
Working on R
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 3:26 PM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
One thing I can say is that it is good that you are aware of your anger. The key is trying to figure out how to process it constructively. I bet it caught you off guard at almost three years out.
Hang in there, and keep posting. I'm sure there are others who can relate.
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