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PrincessPeach06 (original poster member #39588) posted at 7:34 PM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
It hit me so hard but is so true!
“If one makes a mistake, then an apology is usually sufficient to get things back on an even keel. However-and this is a big ‘however’- most people do not ever know why their apology did not seem to have any effect. It is simply that they did not make a mistake; they made a choice…and never understood the difference between the two.”
― Andy Andrews, The Noticer: Sometimes, All a Person Needs Is a Little Perspective.
Me (BS): 36
Him aka narcissistic psychopath (WS): 36
Married 17 years 6 kids ages 16-7
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013
Finally this is R 8/14/13
Filed for divorce 5/8/15
OldCow18 ( member #39670) posted at 7:41 PM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
YES. EXACTLY. I already sent this to WH. It's exactly what I've been trying to articulate.
Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13
sparklezombie ( member #40095) posted at 8:06 PM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
That is completely right. Hope WH comes to understand it.
BS: Me
WH: Husband
One daughter - 22 months
Married 11.5 years
2.5 false R's.
Status: Divorcing.
You can't pick up a turd by the clean end. Time to flush the toilet.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 8:22 PM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
Just epic 
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
WhiteCarrera ( member #29126) posted at 4:50 AM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013
That is really good! I can't tell you how many times my wife has referred to her affair as a mistake (ONS at work conference, followed by six weeks of talk and texting).
She's tired of me correcting her -- It was NOT a mistake! This really makes sense in light of the tone of her apologies. She expects apology/acceptance/move-on. It's not that easy.
Married 13 years @ D-Day in 2009. Still hanging in there (maybe by a thread sometimes)
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