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New Beginnings :
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 fireproof (original poster member #36126) posted at 4:34 AM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

New Beginnings are sometimes crafting a new life or learning to live with divorce.

I have over done my NB and would like to ask on average how many nights per week are you out? Assuming a full time job etc. Thank you I am burning the candles at both ends and don't want to neglect new friends but am losing touch with myself. Plus I need to focus because my ex is waging a battle. I like this NB it is just wearing me out

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traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 1:39 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

Depends on the week and what you're comfortable with. For example, last week, I went out three nights but this coming week I have events for every night

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travels ( member #20334) posted at 2:16 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

I go out maybe once a week - that's including weekends. One reason is to not spend money I don't have. Another reason is my job. A groggy/tired teacher does not mix well with a roomful of third graders.

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inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 3:09 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

It depends on what else is going on in my life. Lately, I've been very content to come home after work and have the down time. I think that has a lot to do with how much energy being where I work sucks out of me.

But even "normally" I usually do my going out on the weekends, and don't do much during the work week. I'm sure it's got something to do with me being an introvert.

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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 3:16 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

My NB consists of attending active meetups, like hiking and birding. I usually just do one a week. I've also been pushing myself to go out for other entertainment. I went to hear a local band play at a bar on Friday night. They were very good, but even though I was raised in a bar, I still don't feel comfortable going by myself. I had a few drinks purchased for me, and I don't know how to react to that It's been a long time...

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S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:04 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

It varies greatly week to week. You need to set a pace that matches your energy levels, commitments, and current needs.

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― Sarah McMane

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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 6:26 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

The past year, close to every night, if you count being in class.

I'd like to be out 3-4 nights a week.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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 fireproof (original poster member #36126) posted at 6:38 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

This helps thank you!

I have retired friends and although they look in their early 40's I am tired.

I will start with no late nights during the work week- I am 20+ years younger than them but I am exhausted!

I am an introvert and labeled an extrovert so emotionally I am .

Thank you again!

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CallMeRed1 ( member #36870) posted at 6:51 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

I have 3 small children who go to their dads for 24 hours each weekend (average).

I don't really go out much in the week but that 24 hours... that's my time to be a real life adult and not just a Mum.

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I was the BS
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million pieces ( member #27539) posted at 10:51 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013

I am an introvert and labeled an extrovert so emotionally I am

This is me, my SO kills me when we are together more than a few days.

Me - 52 D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later, Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

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