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I was reading Mochagurls post about her WH introducing OW to his family as his GF & I was wondering .. what did your WS call OW/OM? (if you know)

My WH & OW called each other boyfriend & girlfriend.. & it always struck me as funny as how can you have a wife/husband & also a girlfriend/boyfriend???

And OW & WH never used my name, I was 'the wife' . I don't know what WH called her BH but she called him by his first name

I can remember reading some of their texts (a condition for me to R was to see EVERYTHING) & one text made me laugh.. WH was very nasty during the A giving me $150 a pay ($300 a month) for the bills & for food for me & the kids... One text read (from OW)"Tell the wife that you can't give her any money this week because you bought your GF a DS. I can't wait until {{OW husband name}} sees the receipt with your name on it, he'll be calling you again" & I saw several others where WH referred to me as 'the wife' LOL

FWIW, WH did NOT buy the DS, OW gave him cash to buy it & he put it on his CC so that he could have cash that I couldn't trace.

Also, was there a certain term of endearment your WH used with both you & OW that bugs you..

I think the only term of endearment I got from WH was 'hun' but he & OW called each other Babe ALL the time, mostly when he was calling her in front of me ( to try & piss me off)

Looking back, (& after lots of IC) I realize they never had a true relationship, it was all making each other feel good & playing at high school-ish romance. My IC told me (& it's taken a lot to believe) that if he would have been sooo happy with her, he wouldn't have involved me so much..

H didn't call her anything other than her name. She called.him "my big daddy" and called.herself "your little mama". And told him she loved him bunches.

My big daddy? I'll never get the daddy thing. Daddy makes me think of...well...MY DAD!

He called her the term of endearment he always used for me...sweetheart. He knew that I didn't like any other one. He knew that I liked being called sweetheart. He knew because I told him. We had many discussions about my dislike for babe, baby, honey...anything...except sweetheart. No, I will not allow him to call me that again. It's no longer special. It's like dropping your amazingly delicious bacon cheeseburger in a pile of dog shit, wiping it off, and trying to be convinced it will still be amazing. It's been infected with shit. I could come up with something else. But it seems so forced. Sweetheart wasn't forced. Just another thing lost to betrayal.

t/j TCD - I know! I asked H how it made him feel and he said stupid.

ugh...big daddy

pig was referred to as 'angel' and had signed off most of her email / text tripe as such. I asked fWH about that, he gave me some bullshit excuse that it was because she was his 'blowpig' (his description) and he associated it to some porn where the blowee was cheering the blower on as 'yeah that's it you're an angel'...sure...like he was paying attention to the dialogue. FFS jackass

[This message edited by StepAside at 12:38 PM, September 13th (Friday)]

The only ones I knew about was darling and sweetheart which I saw in text messages after d-day the last. I don't know if they really use endearments or if they were just using them to get to me, since they both knew I had the secret cell phone at that point.

At the time it bothered me, because ex didn't use endearments with me. But then I remembered that he had told me he didn't have to, because my name was special all by itself. Plus I remembered how stiff and unnatural ex sounded when he used endearments. And well, OW/wifetress's name...not so special or nearly as pretty as mine, so I could see why ex would rather use an endearment with her.

She gave them the nicknames bunny and fox. He said he never used them but they did text each other bunny hearts fox and fox hearts bunny using the emojis. Makes me want to vomit. She's a 29 year old child and he was right there with her.

He said he always called her by her name.

Edited for typos

[This message edited by AML04 at 5:11 PM, September 13th (Friday)]

I know for a fact she referred to wh as her "boyfriend". My coworker was with her then friend (now exfriend bc friend was also a ho) and both ow and coworkers friend were discussing their boyfriends. Both skanks were in their 40's.

Ow tried to be latina. Calling wh "papi".

Wh was not inventive. He called her the same pet names he also called me.

I dont know nor care what she called/calls me. In the phone she gave him that she set up for him I was listed as "wife". Yep, thats right, im the wife and youre the married mans whore. He has for the last two years referred to her as "horse". Since last February he has come to call her "that lady", though she is no lady.

They call each other by their last names

Actually, X used to (and occasionally still does, but we rarely talk) call me by a corruption of my maiden name as a 'term of endearment'