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imagoodwitch (original poster member #23375) posted at 4:46 PM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2013
Can you help me figure out a nice way to tell someone to piss the f**k off and shut the f**k up?
Really struggling today.
It's a don't poke the bear kind of day, and she keeps poking the bear because she thinks it's funny.
TIA
Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 4:50 PM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2013
I'm the last person to give this type of advice 
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 4:50 PM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2013
If you are the bear in question then go with "Not today" and then if it doesn't work a "piss the f**k off and shut the f**k up"
If the bear is someone else, then try redirection. Pull them aside and let them know.
imagoodwitch (original poster member #23375) posted at 4:54 PM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2013
I am the bear today, on the bright side, I realize that I am the bear and have given fair warning.
This person thinks it's fun to poke the bear.
Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess
lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 4:57 PM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2013
"Piss the f**k off and shut the f**k up" sounds like the best approach. Said with a wide disingenuous smile. And followed by, "Please."
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 6:16 PM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2013
You're a bear; bite her head off and be done with it (and her!) 
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
welcome14 ( member #26741) posted at 6:46 PM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2013
If you wear glasses, a no fail move is to lower your head slightly and peer wordlessly over the top of your glasses until said bear poker slinks away. Works like a charm. Works on my kids also....added bonus.
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Bs- me
Someone I used to know- Him
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
whyohwhyohwhy ( member #17890) posted at 7:37 PM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2013
Diplomacy is telling someone to go to hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip!
Good luck!
Life goes on.
Me:50 BS
Him: X, 54 PA SA NPD?
2 kids; DD17, DD11 divorced
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