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ccw82 (original poster member #40133) posted at 11:47 PM on Saturday, September 21st, 2013
I'm feeling really optimistic because I finally started IC, and I had two great sessions this week! 1DH also started IC. Since I started, we haven't faught at all! I've been able to control my anger and overwhelming sadness, and turn it into positive, constructive conversations with 1DH.
I really hope this feeling lasts! I really want our marriage to work. I know that he has to work just as hard, but I'm hoping he's taking a step in the right direction with IC as well so that we both have the tools to heal! 
Me (BW): 39
WXH (1DumbHusband): 43
We were married for over 11 years; now divorced.
BIG D-Day: June 17th, 2013
Too many freaking TTs that cost us our marriage in the end.
"Love isn't a feeling, it's a choice."
RidingHealingRd ( member #33867) posted at 1:03 AM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
It is great that you found an IC that you are comfortable with. I was so fortunate to find one...without her wisdom I probably would have jumped ship in those early days. We are entering year 4 next month and life is so much better.
Continued success in IC and R.
ME: 60 BS
HIM: 67 WH
Married: 35 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 10 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
iwillNOT ( member #40605) posted at 1:29 AM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
So glad you are having a good beginning with your IC! I hope it helps both you and your husband as you begin your work in healing.
Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 1:48 AM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
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