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 sodamnlost (original poster member #37190) posted at 4:24 AM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

I had a whopper of a trigger today. WH asked what happened and I know damn well he won't understand or see reality. So - I wouldn't share it. I realized just how much time I have wasted explaining triggers to him when he clearly didnt "get it". Just feeling sad for me. Tired of carrying the weight. Just plain tired. Despite seeing WICKED intense healing on my part lately, just feeling so raw. The insanely painful 4 hour tattoo I had done before the trigger hit probably didnt help.

Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016


Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an

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Sorceress ( member #33420) posted at 11:14 AM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

They rarely do seem to understand why you feel as you do, or they downplay the shit out of it.

Did you tell your WS why? What was their reaction?

me- BSo 30, happily in new relationship
him-ex wso 40, child sex offender
DD-6 DS-4
I look for the good and admirable in every soul. The people that seem to be neither are terrifying.

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 sodamnlost (original poster member #37190) posted at 1:17 PM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

Did you tell your WS why? What was their reaction?

Yes I did tell him why. Of course on the planet he lives on he swears he could understand and help me through it. Says the guy who can't look at who he is to save his life. It's just so sad when they KNOW what needs to be done but refuse to budge because it's icky feelings inside they have to pick up. Knowing this will be over in 7 weeks is something I am trying to make a positive for me. Just gotta focus...

Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016


Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an

posts: 772   ·   registered: Oct. 19th, 2012   ·   location: Out of the ashes
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