fWH has told the truth.
He has admitted that he had had sex with fOW.
I finally got to the point where I was about to walk out the door, taking DS with me. I was quiet, calm, resigned to the fate of D - completely drained of energy with which to question and cajole.
At last, after two and a half years of my questioning,& relentless tripping him up on his lies, (I have a v.good memory)- (he doesn't) OR, and this is far more likely, he had lied so much, so many times and for so long that he'd forgotten what he said/when he said it.
He was tied up in knots tbh, he didn't and couldn't find a way to turn anymore.
My questioning has been relentless, sometimes i'd not mention it for a little while, but I always returned to the same question(S), and especially this one.
Whilst making lunch on Saturday I asked;
'how many times did you do it with her?'
he said, 'I can't remember exactly' -
so I said 'approximately then'.
His response - 'about 10'.
I didn't argue or question him further, I know that the A started during Feb'11 and ended during May '11, so about 10 times seems feasible.
It all seems a bit of an anti-climax in a way tbh, 'cause I KNEW that they had been at it, but it was so important for me (and him) that HE told me himself.
I'm feeling better, and fWH seems like he's had a tonne lifted from his shoulders already.
ETA
just a pity it took him so long
[This message edited by englishrose at 7:15 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]